Your reaction reminds me a great deal of him.
You might benefit from trying to reflect not only how his situation is different from yours but also how it is the same.

The advice you would give someone else (for example my friend) could then be useful for own situation … (for example .. would that tractor / drainage system / new phone really make all the difference or is it something else that makes others in the same position succeed?)

Good luck! Above is intended as a motivator as I hope you can find it in yourself what is needed to succeed!