Well well, who else have heard that love is blind? I guess everyone. Yea, love they say is blind but marriage opens its eyes.
The question is, is love really blind? Or people just wants to turn a blind eyes to issues that they should be handling in their relationship and looking for a way out or reaching for a compromise in a situation where the parties involved are willing to make a compromise.
I believe that when two people are dating, they are probably looking at settling down. The period of courtship should be used to get to know each other and check out of there are things in the other person that we can’t handle and checkout for areas of compatibility.
But Alas, our generation would use the period to cultivate and grow the butterflies in our stomach to adult stage. Knowing fully well that these butterflies are short lived and would die any moment after marriage or maybe they don’t know.
When the butterflies are fully active, we say that we are in love and we turn blind eyes to looming character issues that should be discussed and addressed.
Finally we get married and when the things we turned blind eyes to begins to resurface more and eventually kills all the butterflies in our belly, then the blind eyes of love opens.
When the once blind eyes have opened, they issues begins to crop up here and there. Issues that should have been walked out on or addressed earlier.
Relationships are not a do or die affair and I don’t believe in entering them blindly. I believe in understanding and compromise. I begin making sacrifices. I believe that love sees. Love is not blind. Love should have sense and should be able to reason. To separate good from bad.
Love should be able to say no. Love should be able to choose the right person. Sometimes love is not enough. There are other factors to consider. When love does not consider all the necessary factors and tends to act blindly, it’s always detrimental and leaves alot of pains and regrets.
Meanwhile experience is a cruel teacher. Love is not blind. If yours if, don’t worry marriage will open the eyes of your blind love.
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