People often wish to forget painful, traumatic, or embarrassing memories, like abuse, heartbreak, failures, or the loss of loved ones, but these memories stick due to their emotional intensity, often serving as reminders of deep hurts. We can't truly erase these memories, but we learn to cope, adapt, or transform the pain into understanding and strength over time. To be honest, I have faced a lot of pains in this life. Some were caused from heartbreaks, trust issues, and loosing my loved ones. Although I try to erase these memories, but can't. Why? This is because such traumas are so hard to forget easily.
One of these pains I have faced in life that I can't easily forget is the pain of trust and betrayal. They say.. "Show me your friend, and i will tell who you are. I had a friend in school, naned Favour. She was a student like me. We lived as neighbors in the same lodge. She was so calm, understands me, and does things to make me happy. Soon,I saw myself sharing my space, trust, and daily life with her. I literally tell her everything going on in my life, both my relationship status. She was the kind of friend you can trust blindly, the one you’d defend without questioning.
*During that period, i had a new catch. So naturally, I introduced him to her. Tey laughed, talked. I watched them vibe, connect naturally and I smiled, thinking nothing of it. One fateful day, i was coming back from class, i saw her having an intimate and romantic discussion with the same man I introduced to her just two weeks ago. They sat together at a dating setting arrangement, talking to each other so romantically, side by side. it felt like a movie to me. I stood there, watching what looked like a scene from a movie I never agreed to act in. I didn’t cause a scene. I just walked away. Not because I was weak, but because I had grown. Silent betrayal cuts deeper than loud arguments.
When she saw me, she starlted. She tried to explain, but I didn’t give her a listening ear,not out of pride, but because I couldn’t trust words, and I literally saw everything. The damage was done and the deed has been done. That alone was an act of silent betrayal and trust issues. Most times, Betrayal doesn’t come with knives, but it can come with fake smiles, pretending to like you, and borrowed trust. Not everyone who sits at your table eats with clean hands. Sometimes, you outgrow the noise by walking away in silence.
In summary, we can hide things, but can't forget. sometimes, things happen for a reason. I thank God for letting it happen that way for me to realize my friends and enemies, and also cut them off as well. Thank you for reading.. Hoping you to see you next time.. Sending hugs..😊