Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I was always a girl who tried to please others, with a soft, calm manner, somewhat shy, not very talkative, a condescending smile, and trying to fit into the circles where I had to socialize...pressing myself all the time to be accepted and loved by the people.
I suppose it was a very normal phase of immaturity at that age, and with some empty (quite a few) within my childish and dreamy personality, lost in a brain lagoon named: How to make people like you
I was lucky after all, but I learned to shape my character and my expressions when I understood that I do not have to pretend to be something I am not to be accepted and honored by a group of people that are not part of my intimate self, sensitive, quiet, loving, angry self, and treacherous.
Human nature is so egotistical and pernicious.
This is my delivery for the weekend commitment that our host Galenkp is preparing for us, responding to the topic:
If you met a new person today, do you think they would like your personality? Explain why and why not, and what aspects of your personality you would change to be more liked, if you could. Use your own photos.
Yes, in life nothing stops, and I continually meet and interact with new and not so new people, but I must confess that although I still have traits of good nature, innocence and nobility, I am no longer usually as meek as before...😅
My personality with new people.
I am generally a sociable person, willing to be pleasant but without many words, perhaps something similar to a light mixture of education and courtesy driven by the time I am willing to dedicate to someone according to the interest they generate in us, or to ideas that let's have a common...
Recalling the last people who have had the tremendous honor of knowing me...😂...I must admit that some find my personality very good and for others, nothing about it is interesting...🤷🏼♀️
The conversation.
Maybe the fact that I am not a very good conversationalist at the beginning, people think that I can be boring... and that could sometimes frustrate me a little because in certain media it is important to socialize to guarantee respectful alliances, but despite that, I know that on each occasion I will only say what is fair and necessary instead of wasting time chattering nonsense, even if some like it and others don't...
Not all talkative people tend to be charismatic and friendly.
So this may not be very popular with someone you just met who loves to talk for hours.
I usually seem very serious.
Another of my personality traits is appearing more serious than I really am, so for someone who just knows me my face might seem a little intimidating from the beginning.
I must admit that it has been an attitude that has been transforming my image for a few years. I remember that I used to smile a lot and now I surprise myself by scolding myself for keeping my jaws too tight and my lips muting for too long.
Faces harden over time and mine has not been immune to this, however, showing a relaxed smile on my face will only depend on the selective chemistry between the new person and me.
Bad character?
On certain occasions they accuse me of having a very strong and uncompromising character.
And yes, I'm not going to deny it, I have it...
It bothers me a lot about people who don't give value to things, who don't make an effort to improve their lives, who don't explore the diversity of the world, who don't read a postcard, let alone a book, who leave everything half done, who don't has an idealized dream, who does not listen to a little music, who judges you based on their own judgments and fears... all the things that have disappointed me in others bother me and that is why I am like that today.
So I am not going to change anything about myself to please someone I just met. Rather, I will evaluate, if time permits, whether that person deserves a place among mine, and I will only change for those who are willing to offer their own change. for our common benefit.
The people who pass by us will only stay if they like the content of your world, your fragility, and your strength... it's not about insensitivity, it's about knowing that you have the right to choose who you share with your life.
Always very grateful for your reading.
The text is entirely my own
All photos are my property
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