I understand that no one wants to be with a struggling man, and every single lady desires a man who can cater to her needs while still respecting her. However, it’s important not to be overly dependent.
Here are some key points for ladies who will be transitioning into motherhood in the coming weeks, years, or days. These points will help you decide when to say yes to a man you plan to spend the rest of your life with:
The ideas below will help you know when to say yes to a man:
Don’t Say Yes to a Man Who Was Rich Before You Met Him:
This is a hard truth, This doesn’t mean you should go for a poor man either. Instead, consider a man who is thriving and can take care of himself to a certain level. That kind of person is likely a better choice to settle down with. When he finally attains wealth while you are with him, he will respect and appreciate you because you were there during his struggles.
I have five friends; Doris, Jessica, Mary, Delight, and Tobatha who married rich men who had already made it before the relationship began.
Doris:
Doris has been living in her parents’ house for over six months. She complains that her husband makes decisions without her approval and doesn’t recognize her influence in the family. They have two kids, and she is currently going through depression. To make matters worse, her husband is now married to another woman who has taken on the role of the mother to their children.
Jessica:
Jessica later discovered that her husband is a drug addict who misbehaves when intoxicated. He never listens to her, and all her efforts to help him recover from addiction have failed. She is currently staying with her friend.
Say Yes to a Man Who Knows His Creator:
Often, neglecting our creator makes our relationship issues worse because the devil is no one’s friend. Your ability to wake up and pray for your relationship can help solve some issues, while the rest depends on character.
You will need to seek the blessings that come with relationship/marriage. When a man is prayerful, you may join him too as the spirit leads. In relationship you just can’t do without prayers or seeking supreme guidance.
Say Yes to a Man Who Has a Job:
While money is necessary in a relationship, it doesn't determine happiness, but it can solve problems. Especially when handwork is included. When a man has a job, he will be able to sort out his needs and also spend the little he has on you, willingly. If he doesn’t have a good paying job, at least let it be able to cater for his needs.
Someone who values You
Life will eventually bring you someone who values and cares about you just as you are. You can say yes to such a person. Take your time to study your man’s character and conduct. Do not marry a man who believes beating his partner is acceptable or who frequently fights with everyone, even in public you will not be exempted from such behavior. This can lead to domestic violence, leaving you with deep regrets.
My friends, Mary and Delight, are currently single because they couldn’t endure the torture from their husbands, especially when they came home drunk. They, too, met men who were already wealthy.
If you have read this far, I welcome you all into the motherhood experience, including existing mothers. I greet you all and wish you the best. In my next post, I will discuss what men want that can keep your love strong for life. I wish I could pen this down in a book but I think my blog will be the best so others can read it and share their opinions too.
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