In every conversation, arguments are bound to happen sometimes it doesn't but then the world is unpredictable to the point that you won't know when your words or actions won't be pleasing to the next person and that person wouldn't want to be calm but express themselves and before you know there is an argument. Or let me just say, "Arguments are part of life." it's even what makes life more interesting.
I know you will agree with me that all peace and no conflict can be a little boring. "Don't look at me like that," and often, as humans, we always disagree to agree, so argument is a fundamental part of the human race that we pursue every day. I've known myself to be the type that doesn't like engaging in conversation that would likely lead to arguments, but then these things are unpredictable "like you can't foresee it," so often I try my best not to engage in certain conversations (another but then coming). Let's just blame it on the world we live in and its uncertainties.
Have you ever had an argument with someone who doesn't back down from it? Someone that won't accept yours but would want you to accept theirs? Well, I've had an argument like that before; those are the kinds of arguments I try to avoid. So I engage in limited and light conversation with such people because even amidst little misunderstanding, it's likely to lead to an heated argument: "I avoid such".
How do I settle an argument? I feel amid an argument, walking away isn't always the best option; I know some people do it just to make peace reign in the atmosphere, but then that isn't the right option. Some walk away at that moment and come back later to express themselves, "Yeah!" So which one am I? As much as I don't like engaging in arguments, it still happens. In moments like that, I don't walk away and let the next person take the victory; I would ensure to communicate my side of the story just like I would listen to the next person communicate theirs and see where the whole issue started.
But then it also boils to my mood at the moment, there are days when I wouldn't feel like talking and exchanging words with anyone, days like that I would walk back into my shell then when the atmosphere is kind of calm, I would approach that person again with no intentions of raising the argument all from the beginning but just to communicate my feelings and if I was wrong I would apologize and leave but if the next person was wrong then the person is gonna do the same.
How do I make sure arguments don't lead to regrets? certain arguments can lead to best friends becoming foes, "I've seen it happen," to the point of brothers becoming enemies. All these things boil down to a misunderstanding. And then how do I ensure that? I make sure that amid arguments, I don't use inappropriate words at the next person, I always ensure that my words are in order because in those moments, I feel like if I say certain words, I won't be able to take them back so it's better I don't say them at all.
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