What is really enough?

in Hive Learners5 days ago

Deep down, I believe people who genuinely love each other don't get married with the sole purpose of getting divorced in the near future. "Nah, I don't think so." Such people get married because they love each other, but then the future is unpredictable.

Imagine knowing someone for years and then one fateful day, you were invited by a friend to an eatery. When you entered, you saw beautiful rose flowers on the floor, leading you to a write-up you never expected. When you walked closer, boom, you saw him holding a banquet, then he handed it over to you, moved back a little, kneeled down, and brought out this expensive diamond ring "Why am I using expensive? Well, let's continue."

After seeing the ring, your eyes become teary. "Now those are tears of joy." Then he held your hand and popped the question; you won't think for a minute but say the biggest yes you've ever said in your entire existence. The night was over, "a short story I know," a few days later, it was time to tie the knot with that person. You did, and you even tagged that day as the happiest day of your life, "the joy." After that, the journey of marriage began.

You've started noticing slight changes in that person you married, this person started portraying characters you didn't know existed in them. You started feeling like a stranger and didn't want the marriage again. Walking away was never the option, but at this moment, it became the best option. "An imaginary story of love, but then tomorrow is unpredictable" (what a title I know, right).

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I've heard the word "prenup" before, but I didn't really understand the meaning. The only thing I knew was after the court wedding, they would issue a certificate to the couples, and that was the end. I didn't know it had a very deep meaning "Well, now I know".

Now, what's a prenuptial agreement? It is a legal agreement the intending to wed enter into before saying "yes I do" to determine how their assets should be divided in the event of divorce.

I've heard stories of how certain women, after divorce, financially and assetly "if there is a word like that," drain their ex-husbands. All the weddings I've attended recently all did the legal agreement thing, "prenups." It's getting rampant these days. (Why do I feel like everyone is waiting patiently for my opinion).

I'm gonna start by saying "prenups" aren't a bad thing to engage in, but then parties of a marriage should be independent; everyone should have a thing doing so in the case of separation, one party doesn't have to be fully dependent on the other because they signed a legal agreement. I've heard stories of how some women financially drain their ex-husbands, "some even went further into rendering the men homeless," and now that is bad.

Currently, people get married for different reasons but the very first reason that existed before this newly invented one was "love." You wouldn't want someone you loved at one moment to be homeless or financially drained "Nope," Even the woman won't be proud to show such a person off and be like, "Meet my ex-husband."

Before agreeing to go into a prenuptial agreement, the couples involved should be financially independent; everyone, if the woman isn't that financially stable, at least she should be financially okay.

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magine knowing someone for years and then one fateful day, you were invited by a friend to an eatery. When you entered, you saw beautiful rose flowers on the floor, leading you to a write-up you never expected. When you walked closer, boom, you saw him holding a banquet, then he handed it over to you, moved back a little, kneeled down, and brought out this expensive diamond ring "Why am I using expensive? Well, let's continue."

it seems like this is your dream proposal.
most times, we just jump into marriage
remember to always have an overseer over the relationship.

Not my dream proposal though 😕

Yeah. Currently people don't seem to understand the term marriage again.

mind sharing yours ??

Having a job you do even before entering marriage adds value to you and even makes your partner comfortable for real.
Just like you, I also don't see anything wrong with prenups, I mean there's no problem with taking precautions right?

Yes.

Having a job adds more value to marriage, it makes you stable a bit.
Since the world is unpredictable, its good to be ready for anything.

Very true

People are wicked out there. Imagine marrying the love of your life only to find out they didn’t even love you to start with, they were only in t to divorce you and take your money and property.

At this point, prenups are a necessary evil.

Yeah, it is.

It can be surprising that people stopping people that they once loved.