Often, I wonder what life would have been if my father was alive and lived with us all through the years he has been absent. What would have life offered? Would I have done things differently, or I wouldn't have been the person I am the person today? Would I have been richer or poorer?. What impact would I have had? These are the questions I kept asking myself anytime the thoughts of my father stepped in.
I know life would have been a lot easier for the other parent my mother. Because even as a child, I see those secret tears mum shed when life became tough for her, Being left alone with five children isn't an easy task. Life doesn't give you a manual to handle situations like this; you just have to self-learn because no one else will understand that part. Life throws different things at different people; that is why they say, "As our faces are different, so are the things we are going through".
Every parent has an impact on the life of their offspring because every parent has different techniques which they use in raising their children. Even in the home, the father and mother possess different skills when it comes to parenting.
I know they say, "Two heads, ohh, I mean, two good heads are better than one," but then I know you would agree with me that one good head is also way better than two heads sometimes, if not often.
I don't believe that a child's upbringing can be perfect if both parents are involved; I'm gonna propose and oppose this saying at the same time. If both parents are involved in the upbringing of a child its fine but in a situation where the child has lost one parent and that single parent is faced with the multiple responsibilities of caring for the child, I believe that single parent can also give a child the right upbringing just like the other parent would if being alive.
As I said earlier, I grew up with a single parent; I didn't experience having a father around the house, and I don't know what having two parents felt like because my father passed when I was way younger, my mother stepped In the gap, and became the father I didn't have. Growing up I never felt something was missing in my life. If my father had been alive, I don't know how I would have been.
Raising a child In the right way isn't always easy; it takes wisdom, understanding, and tolerance because sometimes you'd feel like giving up on the children, but when you look at them, you realize they are yours, and this is the journey you've signed up for. Often, I'd hear Mum say, if you weren't my child, I've thrown you out to where you came from. It isn't easy on our parents, but yet they keep us, and that's where unconditional love comes into play.
I don't think a child's future would've been different if the child had both parents participate in the upbringing; I feel like a single parent can also handle that duty, just that the load would be much on that parent. No one ever wished to be raised by a single parent, but then life happens, and boom, you are being raised by a single parent.
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