When I first saw this topic on the hive learners contest channel about modifying babies before they are born choosing their gifts, talents, and removing all their defects it just honestly made me pause and think , I understand the whole idea . Like who would not want a baby that is smart, athletic, beautiful, healthy, and perfect in every way?... Huh? No one!.
But the truth is that , babies are not machines or phone apps that you can customize to your taste . A baby is a gift. And the thing about gifts, especially the really special ones, is that you dont know what is inside until you open them.
That’s how God gives us children.
You see when a woman gets pregnant , yes, we all pray for safe delivery and a healthy child. But we don’t know what exactly that child will come with . You don’t know if your baby will be quiet or loud, serious or playful, good at maths or more creative. You don’t know who that child will grow up to be . And that is the beauty of it watching it unfold.
Now imagine if you could choose everything about your baby before birth ,height, skin tone, intelligence, talents, even personality . No surprises, no mystery ,where is the joy in that?..... Where is the excitement? How would it still feel like a gift?huh?
Yeah …I honestly feel that part of what makes parenthood beautiful is that process of discovering your child little by little . From the first smile to the first time they crawl, their first words, their unique way of thinking ,it is a journey. And it is a journey that is different for every parent and child.
If we start trying to remove every so called imperfection, are we not also removing the things that make each child special? You ask yourself that question…
Even some of the most brilliant, kind, and inspiring people in the world today didn’t come in “perfect” packages. Some of them were born with health issues, learning difficulties, or physical challenges . But their lives still became powerful stories. Their parents still loved them deeply, and they still made a difference.
I remember a story of a daughter who was born with a hearing problem. It was tough at first for both parents and child ,but with time, they said the girl became a talented artist . So If her parents had the chance to remove that “defect” before birth, would they also have removed the part of her that sees the world differently and expresses it through art? Nah!... They wouldn't. We don’t always know what id truly a defect and what is just a different kind of gift.
Let us also be honest ,this idea of choosing everything about a baby might create more problems than it solves . Once we start doing that, where do we stop? If one parent chooses a genius, another might choose a football star, another might want a child that looks like a celebrity , and soon, children stop being children and start becoming products of people’s insecurities and ambitions.
Worse still, what happens when the child grows up and doesn’t live up to the “design”? Huh? , Will the parents be disappointed? Will the child feel pressured to be something they aree not? That’s not love. That’s control to me o. I don't know how another person sees it.
See God knows what he’s doing, Every child comes with a purpose. Even when it is not clear at first, there is always something in them that the world needs. And as parents, our job is not to edit or rearrange that. Our job is to love, guide, nurture, and enjoy the surprises along the way
You know you wouldn’t accept a wrapped gift from someone you love , only to open it, complain about it, and say, “I wish it was something else.” abi?... No nah…. You appreciate it because of the thought, the intention, the love behind it, and that is exactly how it should be with children.
When you hold your baby for the first time, there is this overwhelming feeling you get, like when I heard my first child, You are not thinking about whether they will be a doctor or a singer. You are just filled with love and that love should be enough to carry them through whatever they turn out to be.
We live in a time where people are obsessed with perfection like crazily obsessed . Social media will show you children who can play piano at 3, solve maths like robots, or speak four languages fluently, But we forget that each child’s journey is different, some children bloom later in life ,some start slow and end up surprising everyone…. That's just life for you
Know this that there is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your child, that is natural. But we must also understand that “the best” isn’t always something we can just program from the start, sometimes the best is hidden in what we didn’t expect. Sometimes it is in the challenges, the growth, the resilience, the love, the lessons.
So you see a baby is not a project ,a baby is a human being with flaws, beauty, surprises, and destiny.
So if you ask me, I will say let God do His work , Receive your baby with open arms, just like you would receive any true gift. Unwrap them with love and patience. Wait for the surprises. Celebrate the journey and you will be amazed at what you unfold. Because in the end, the perfect baby is not the one we create in a lab.
The perfect baby is the one God gives with all the mystery, wonder, and purpose He packed inside.
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