Friendships, relationships, and every other kind of ship you can think of can be complicated. This is because humans are complex, so almost everything about us is complex. Today’s Hive Learners’ prompt is GHOSTING. Have you ever had to ghost someone? Sometimes, ghosting someone is the best step to take for your own happiness and mental health. Sometimes, it is the best action to take for both parties. I have actually been on both sides of the coin; I have been ghosted and I have ghosted, and this has happened many times. The first time I experienced this was heartbreaking, especially when you thought you meant so much to the person. Have you ever been friends with a person that it is almost impossible to picture your life without them in it? I have had beautiful friendships like that, only for them to come to an end and today, we now ghost each other.
I have realized something about friendships, particularly when it comes to ghosting or being ghosted. Cut your friends some slack. Just because a person ghosted you doesn’t necessarily make them a bad person. Maybe they did it for their own mental health? Maybe they started to see you as an obstruction, maybe they see you as the wall that stands between them and their goals. Maybe they start to see you as a threat to their mental health. Then in such a case, ghosting is the best approach. If you reach out to them and they still ghost you, then leave them. They have probably already thought about it and decided it was the best action.
Yes, I have. I haven’t done this many times, but yes, I have. We didn’t start off the friendship in the best way possible. You could say we hated each other. But one thing led to another and we became friends. For the period it lasted, it was fun. I learnt so many things from them and they from me. We shared a common interest; notes. Handwritten notes. The peak of the friendship was great, but one thing led to another and I realized I wasn’t valued as much as I wanted in the friendship. I realized that I held this person in high esteem, but it was not mutual.
Imagine fighting for someone, even behind their backs, only for you to realize that they wouldn’t do the same. Not that alone, but also that they had been talking ill about you behind your back. Now, you start to question if the friendship was ever real in the first place. For my own happiness and self-respect, I decided to opt out of the friendship. I started ghosting them. One day, one week, one month, and with time, they also gave up on the friendship. Maybe things would have turned out well if I had talked to them instead of ghosting? Well, maybe but I chose not to take that route. I chose the “ghosting” route.
I have realized that sometimes we need to actually ghost people for things to get better. It might not be forever, but for the time you manage to get yourself together.
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