Hello friends and hiveleaeners, how are you doing today? It is always awesome to have one good friend than to have many friends.
When I was a child, my father always told me that making a friend is good but don't make bad friends. A bad friend can destroy one's life.
My father told me about a tragedy of someone that was his friend.
“When I was very young, I had many friends; there was a particular friend I had that nearly got me into prison. On this particular day, my friend gave me a watch. It was a very expensive watch of which I did not know. I thought it was those watches we buy on the streets or in stores.
“I was very happy to receive the watch from him not knowing that he stole the watch from a rich man's house. You know, if you get new things, you will be happy to use it. I wore this watch, doing my hand so that people would see that I wore a watch. Then, a man saw the watch in my hand; he asked me ‘where do you buy the watch?’ I said to him, it is my friend that gave me.
“Without an argument, he took me to the rich man; asked the rich man, ‘is this not your watch?.
The rich man answered, “It looks like my watch. Boy, let me see the watch.
“That was how I gave him the watch. He checked the watch for a few minutes; and said, it is my watch. That was when I heard that the watch could build 2 of my father's houses. Immediately, I knew I was in trouble; I said to the rich man, it was my friend that gave me.
“He was called, when he got there he denied the fact that it was him that gave me. Everyone was looking at me like a thief. Thank God! I had some that believed me that it wasn't me which was my father; but he didn't say it in the place. He send chiefs in the community to beg on his behalf. Instead of taking me to the police station, I was released.
“I thought my father would pardon me. When I got home, he beat the hell out of me. I was not allowed to go anywhere for a week. It was a very shameful act to my father in the community. The community dwellers saw me as a thief. This was the reason I don't have many friends.
“I learned lessons from his tragedy and am always conscious of people I associate with”.
That was the reason I don't have many friends. Most of my childhood friends are still my best friends today. There are some of them we haven't seen for 10 years but we talked on the phone.
Making friends is not that easy for me: this is because if i want to make you my friend, no matter who you are, I would achieve my goal. But, I always scrutinized my friends because of the story that my father told me. I love to have friends with the same passion, charisma, etc. if I notice any bad behavior that I don't like such as stealing, smoking, drinking, and womanizing; it could be the end of our friendship. This is the reason I don't have many friends. Many people want to make friends with me but I selected my choice.
IT IS A SKILL
The reason I said ‘it is a skill’ is that I can make friends with anyone.
I am an introvert, I don't like talking; I read many publications and articles that said, “it is not easy for an introvert to make friends”.
It is very easy for me because it is a skill.
It is not genetic.
It is not cursed.
It is not how fashionable you are.
It is not how rich you are.
It is not innate.
It is not a skill you are born with.
It is charismatic and social adept. With these two skills you can make friends with anyone.
All you need to do is to develop charismatic and social adept skills; you can make anyone your friends.
I stand up for success, and success is not achieved by merely making mouth, No room for laziness, no room for idleness. Success comes to the people who are desperately and consciously searching for it. When it seems unsuccessful or you smell failure around you, never discourage yourself from being successful.
“Discouragement and failure are the two surest stepping stones to success.” - Dale
Thank you for reading my post.
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