It's hard with family but we still let go

in Hive Learners3 days ago

Letting go is never easy, especially when it involves family. When it's friends or acquaintances who hold you back, it's simpler; you can distance yourself, block them, or just stop showing up in their space. But when it has to do with family, especially your parents. It usually becomes a heavy decision because you don't want to offend them. You will get confused and start asking yourself, how do I walk away from the people who raised me? Will they understand why I made the decision?

Sometimes the very people who love us the most can unknowingly keep us stuck. Most times it is not out of wickedness or control; most times it is from a place of fear. They might have seen the world differently and would want to protect you from the mistake they made. So whatever makes you start thinking differently, wanting to chase your dreams, take risks, or break family tradition, they will start panicking. You will start hearing things like, That's not how things are done. I have done it before, but it doesn't work. To them they are guiding you, but they are actually caging one spirit.

Whether we like it or not, the truth remains that growth can't always happen in the same environment that raised you. You might love your family, but they can be the reason why you are not growing because most of them have high expectations from you and not letting you explore your passion with their fear and mentality. Sometimes they don't even believe in your dreams; they see it as a waste. When you insist on going through with your dream, you become a rebellious child. The painful part is you are now torn between staying back and allowing peace to reign or staying away for your own freedom and success.

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Letting go doesn't mean cutting off one's family completely. It means creating a healthy space for your growth. It means I love you all, but I need to do this my way. You can still call them, visit them, and still protect your peace. When I wanted to go and do my NYSC, my family was afraid of the northern and western parts of my country and was asking me to relocate. I refused and told them that I needed to change the environment. If they are not tired, I am, and I'm not planning to come back till I finish my service. They went behind my back to work on my relocation, but it didn't work out.

Currently I am planning on moving out of the house because they are scared of everything that I plan on doing; they will be like, We heard people tried it and it didn't end well. Are you sure this thing is going to work? So many discouraging words, but I have made up my mind. It is very annoying when they can't see things your way. Sometimes I will start feeling guilty for wanting more peace, more adventure. There are times I do wonder if I've been selfish. But I have come to a conclusion that choosing me is not selfishness but that I can't be in the same space that makes me keep shrinking just to fit their desires.

I don't hate them, and I don't want to argue or try to make them understand everything. I just quietly move in my truth, ignoring voices that don't move me forward. Now I am letting life speak for me. I want to let my happiness, peace, and growth show them that my choice wasn't rebellion; it was purpose.

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Totally get this. Creating space doesn’t mean you love them less, it’s about protecting your own growth and peace. Sometimes choosing yourself is the bravest thing you can do.

Exactly. You will find yourself going fast

Growth and pursuit for success requires that you move out of your comfort zone.

Honestly

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