I have come to a conclusion that in this life, people don't need to have a good reason before they hurt you. I think they derive joy when they see you sad.
I just want to get to the point and pour my heart about this prompt. But I have to tell you about my mother inlaw first.
This happened three days ago. I was hurt by someone I so much love and respect.
My mother in love is the name I saved her number with. This woman is a woman I like a lot. With everything around her, she keeps doing her best and trying to be there for everyone. She is very loving and caring. She always has the best business ideas based on your personality and location. She loves her grandchildren and she's always doing what she feels it's right to do for her children.
Sometimes, she may go overboard and do what you don't want from her but the most important thing here is the intention behind it. I can't recall the number of people she gave my CV to telling them to help me get a job. It later became annoying because I couldn't stand it sometimes, I felt ashamed and I had to ask her to stop. She just wants the best for you.
She talks a lot too and in the process of doing this, she spills things that she shouldn't talk about to strangers. The first time we talked before I got married to her son, she told me how her parents did not allow her to marry her first love. She said things that I believe she shouldn't have said but I enjoyed her company.
The truth remains that I really appreciate her. I love the fact that she loved me, accepted me and pampered me. She tried to provide some of the things I needed to be comfortable as a new bride.
I in turn respected her like my own mum. I loved her and made sure we do right by her always. I never disrespected her for once in my marriage and whenever I go visiting, I buy things for her no matter how little.
I had a little misunderstanding with my husband about changing of name some time ago, and she didn't allow me explain my side of the story before she concluded and gave me some words that I would never forget. I was too shocked to say a word. I just kept quiet and and later said 'okay' the most painful part of it was that the next time I heard about it was three days ago, when my husband said that I insulted his mother! I was shocked
I felt weak immediately, I couldn't process it, I wondered where, when, how, all at the same time. He said she told him so but he decided not to ask me. The circumstances surrounding where she told him, when he told me, in the presence of whom it was said, made me cry.
That same day, she made another annoying statement to me on the phone without hearing me out. I'm not asking her to love me more than her son but to at least listen before blaming me.
I felt really bad and heart broken why would she say such?
I still can't explain how bad I felt about all these. I didn't expect it from her. I had to explain it to my husband's younger sister who apologize to me and promised to speak with her.
She called to apologize yesterday saying she got angry. I accepted and said no problems because myself and her son she was taking sides with had already put her in the middle. We concluded she was the one that made matters worse. I bet she would never interfere in our business anymore.
I had to forgive her because I don't want anything to disturb my mind. I have bigger things to deal with and I need my peace of mind.
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