The society has a way of pushing people to do things that they never wanted to do. And even when you think of doing things they way people want it to be done, you will now discover that different people have their own different options. So, in this case, who do you want to please? This is a very big question left for everyone to give his or her own answer.
Welcome back to my blog for the second edition for week 98. This is an interesting topic. I love the fact that we are treating this particular topic today and this week.
The image belongs to me.
At first when I saw the topic I said to myself that I can't come and kill myself because of the society that doesn't even care about me. That is the fact. No one knows how you feed, cook, pay and bills and all of that. All they care about is to make rules for us that don't even help in any way solve our so many problems.
THE PRESSURES IN MY SOCIETY.
For me the issue has always been the gender thing. We have so many pressures telling woman what to do and what not to do. How to talk and how not to talk.who to marry and who not to marry. How to mingle with men as a married woman and how not to mingle.
I want to share a story of someone who lost her patient when she discovered what the society she got married into says of her and what she needs to do. This is actually a true life story.
A lady got married to a man from a neighboring state. When she gave birth to her first child and her family got to know about it, her younger brother went to see her and the baby with his church mind ohh. When he got there he was told that his elder sister was taken her birth and you know it usually takes time before they can finish that kind of birth. He got impatient and stated calling her name so that he can greet her. She also answered with all the joy from the birth room. Her in-laws told her that she broke the law of the land. According to them she was not sopposed to answer him while in the birth room. This actually turned to a big case. She was told to go and do some sacrifice so that she will not be harmed. That very day she packed her things and left her husband's house saying that she can't do what they people there are asking her to do
On my own side I love dressing in skirt and blouse, or find gown. I don't buy the idea of always tying wrapper as a mother, it doesn't work for me. I have heard some people say that I don't dress like a married woman. They want to see me in wrappers. I don't like wrappers. I don't also do wrappers most times.
HOW TO MANAGE SUCH PRESSURE?
I have decided to be me. I don't want to kill myself because of people who may not even know that I exist.
I try to be myself. Dress for myself. Always having God first. Respecting elders but I can't allow someone to remote my life for me. Thanks 👍
