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Today we shall be running through a discussion about forgiveness and the need to forgive the people that hurt us. There is no one that have not been hurt by people they care about such as friends, family, lovers and even strangers. We have all experienced the heartbreaking feeling that comes with been hurt and it can be overwhelming. We are always in a dilemma of either forgiving or taking revenge and most times we make our decision based on how badly we were hurt.
Forgiveness is one of the hardest thing to do but it is highly necessary in order to be free from the burden of guilt and regrets. We are aware of the benefits of forgiving someone, especially for our own sake not theirs, but we still find it difficult to let go. Our mind is often filled with pain and agony, and we feel the only way to heal fast is to inflict the same level of pain on the person. But this is not the best.
Do you know that if you're planning a revenge you have successfully given the bad thoughts that you are breeding in your mind and the person you're targeting the revenge at a full control over you and your emotions. The revenge process may not bw concluded in a day or weeks or even months. So, what this means is that you not heal and get over the issue until after executing the revenge even if it takes a couple of years. This is going to pose a challenge to your overall well-being. You will be a person filled with hate and fury in your life. It is more helpful for you and your mental health to forgive and let go rather than taking the stress of staging a revenge.
It is important to know that human beings are not perfect and no matter how hurt you are it may be difficult to turn back the hands of time - what has happened has happened - so it is advisable to let love prevail instead of intentionally planning the fall of another human. There was a situation that could have been easily resolved with dialogue or compensation without any form of violence but it ended up being brutal. There were some group of herdsmen that killed a bus driver for hitting their cow which later died. Or is the case of a man who caught his wife cheating in their matrimonial bedroom who stabbed her and the man to death. So many lifes and properties have been destroyed in our world today due to the hunger for revenge and it should be highly discouraged.
No matter the extent of the damage that you incurred, let love always reign. Love has the power to turn things around and it can make you heal faster than you can imagine. Love can transform an ugly, life-threatening situation to an exciting one. Dialogue is the answer to some issues and crisis - the parties involved can come together to express their displeasure and the way forward instead of choosing violence. Violence is widely known to cause more harm than good.
Meanwhile, you don't have to always give yourself up as a victim just because you want to embrace love. The person may take advantage of your forgiving heart if they discover that you are always forgiving each time they wrong you. If you are observing a constant reoccurrence of a particular life-threatening action on you it is best to give the person some space. This does not mean that you haven't forgiven such person but you're trying to be in a safe space.
In conclusion, always have it at the back of your mind that you have also hurt people as well either intentionally or unintentionally. Will you feel safe if you get to know that there is a conscious attempt to get back at you? We all make mistakes and we should be ready to learn from our mistakes on a daily basis. The world will be a toxic space if we all constantly plot revenge against each other - it will become a war zone.
Thanks for your time and see you in my next one.
