Reading this feels like you're directly talking to me. At some point in my life, if anything happens, the first thing I do is to look for who to blame. My husband try telling me to always take ownership of whatever that happens whether good or bad.
And as time goes on, I come to realize that taking ownership doesn't mean that, I'm a bad person or a failure, it means that I have admit my wrongs and ready to do my best next time. Thank you.