I feel that things that I have achieved during that marriage was despite her and not because of her helping with anything.

It is not a healthy way to live in a romantic relationship, is it?

And that promotion came with a nice increase which we are both enjoying.

And the both enjoying is important. Money doesn't bring me much joy, but being able to buy things for my family does. Sharing the good times, also makes sharing the difficult times easier. Some people are only "fair-weather friends"

She knows nothing about technology or architecture, but that didn't stop her and it was crucial for me to recognize that despite all my expertise in those fields I sorely needed her help to present my case to the decision makers.

As I am in a similar field to your wife, I wish more engineers would realise this :)

Now I just need to figure out how to better collaborate with her in crypto investing :)

Good luck! She already knows that crypto is a scam. ;D