Hi Galen, I'm glad to hear that this experience has made you decide to be kinder to yourself.

I have never been a friend of asking for help, I don't know if it is because of fear of rejection, or that asking for help is a demonstration of weakness or not to bother, or sometimes simply because I believe in meritocracy. The truth is that I don't know.

But, on two important occasions in my life I have had to ask for help. One with my father's illness. The response from family, not in all cases, from some friends, and from state services was so discouraging that as a family we had to make some decisions. One of them, on my part, was to quit work for a while to focus on caring for my father (and my mother).

And like in the movie "Lorenzo's oil" I started studying on my own, looking for the latest in research, and training in other types of (unofficial) medicines.

In the end, help came. I met people who helped us and from whom I learned many good things.

The other time I have decided to ask for help, is at this moment in my life and for work reasons, and I can say that it has been quite difficult for me to do it.

A hug