As I can see, you got a nice long comment by @shaidon where he explained it in a simple way how it works...

I will try to do it in an even simpler way... These comments that you leave are the first step, the next one is that you implement things that others are helping you out... Engage with others, support others, and add value to other's posts and life...

For example, this post is an announcement post for the live show in Ecency discord... Come to the show, listen, ask questions...

Cheers!