Boundaries Not Barrier's LOH#225

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In any successful relationship, establishing and respecting personal boundaries is crucial. Boundaries are essential in maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship, allowing individuals to feel comfortable, respected, and valued. As an introverted Scorpio, i have reflected on my non-negotiables in a relationship and three critical areas stand out, they include

1. financial boundaries
2. intimacy boundaries
3. communication boundaries

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Firstly, financial boundaries are vital in any relationship,each individual should have autonomy that is having our individual say over our finances and we should respect each other's decisions, i believe that how i choose to spend my money is my right and my partner should not dictate or question my financial choices. This boundary is essential in maintaining trust, reducing stress and promoting a sense of independence within the relationship. Some might say no to this but i feel it's very necessary for our very own individual growth, and yes financial help is acceptable but i say no room for vigilante.

Secondly, intimacy boundaries are critical in any romantic relationship. It is essential to respect each other's comfort levels and decisions regarding physical intimacy. Pressure or coercion can lead to feelings of resentment, guilt, and even trauma. I believe that if my partner decides to wait or set boundaries around intimacy, their decision should be respected and valued.

Lastly, communication boundaries are essential, especially for introverts like myself. While regular communication is vital in any relationship, it is equally important to respect each other's need for alone time and personal space. I find it draining when someone expects me to be available 24/7 constantly answering calls or responding to messages. This expectation can lead to feelings of suffocation and resentment, It is crucial and very very important to establish a mutually respectful communication, allowing the both of us to recharge and maintain our individuality.

MY TAKE ON INDEPENDENCE AND TOGETHERNESS IN A RELATIONSHIP

I think independence and togetherness are essential components of a healthy and fulfilling relationship.I cherish my independence and individuality, i enjoy having my own space, pursuing my own interests, and making my own decisions, i believe that maintaining a sense of independence is crucial in preventing too much dependency and at thesame time promoting personal growth.

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On the other side of the coin, i also value the beauty of togetherness in a relationship, i believe that sharing experiences,supporting each other's goals,and enjoying quality time together are essential aspects of a loving relationship (Togetherness brings a sense of belonging, intimacy, and connection).

For me,the ideal balance between independence and togetherness is about finding a good balance that respects both partners need, it's about being able to pursue individual interests while also prioritizing quality time together,it's about maintaining open communication, trust and mutual respect.

I believe that a healthy relationship is one that celebrates both independence and togetherness, recognizing that these two aspects are interconnected and essential to each other's growth.

Anyways I have never been in any romantic relationship but these are few important boundaries i intend to uphold in a relationship.

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Wowwww! Without having a romantic relationship you are pretty clear and precise about your boundaries. That's impressive. I must say you are a wise !LADY.

I agree to all the three points about healthy boundaries you have mentioned. Especially I have the similar view about financial boundaries. Both the partners should feel secure and independent while making their financial decisions. Having a fear of being questioned or rebuked takes away the peace of mind which is harmful for the overall wellbeing of an individual


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Thank goodness am not the only one on this.I have always imagined myself in a relationship laying down all these boundaries from the get go.
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I am very impressed with your insights here @tehilah, considering you have not entered a relationship yet. They are all very valid and important. I agree a healthy relationship should celebrate both togetherness and independence xx

Thank you so much for giving me such a positive feedback, and for agreeing with me.
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