La Trascendencia en la crianza de los hijos | Loh Constest #186 [ESP-ENG]

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Hola hermosas damas de la colmena, espero estén muy bien y hayan tenido días maravillosos. Me animo nuevamente a participar en el Constest de esta semana dando respuesta a la primera pregunta e invito a todas las que me lee a participar también

Hello beautiful ladies of the hive, I hope you are very well and have had wonderful days. I am again encouraged to participate in this week's Constest by answering the first question and I invite all of you who read me to participate as well.



1️⃣La crianza de los hijos trasciende meras etapas de la vida; representa una designación profunda que implica la responsabilidad monumental de inculcar altos valores morales y moldear a la generación siguiente para un futuro próspero. En este sentido, ¿cuáles considera que son las tres cualidades o rasgos más fundamentales que deben poseer los padres para cumplir eficazmente esta tarea vital?

Siempre he creído y esto puedo asegurarlo, que una de las responsabilidades más grande que tenemos las madres y los padres es criar a nuestros hijos, porque dejando de lado que nadie nos enseña como se hace, solemos ir tanteando toda esta aventura de ser mamá, conociendo a nuestros hijos para poder estructurar esa crianza que uno quiere darle.

1️⃣La parenting transcends mere life stages; it represents a profound designation that involves the monumental responsibility of instilling high moral values and molding the next generation for a prosperous future. In this regard, what do you consider to be the three most fundamental qualities or traits that parents must possess to effectively fulfill this vital task?

I have always believed, and this I can assure you, that one of the greatest responsibilities that we mothers and fathers have is to raise our children, because leaving aside that nobody teaches us how to do it, we usually go testing this whole adventure of being a mother, getting to know our children to be able to structure the upbringing that we want to give them.



En mi caso, opino que los tres rasgos fundamentales que deben tener los padres en la crianza (apartando el amor, porque siento que es tácito y fundamental que debe de existir por los hijos y su crianza) son los siguientes:

Objetividad: sé que es difícil, porque como padres solemos cegarnos ante nuestros hijos, pero es importante que seamos objetivos en el comportamiento y accionar de ellos, porque solo así vamos a poder ver que podrían estar haciendo mal y corregirlo, así como en el bien para apoyarlo.

In my case, I believe that the three fundamental traits that parents should have in their upbringing (apart from love, because I feel that it is tacit and fundamental that should exist for their children and their upbringing) are the following:

**Objectivity: I know it is difficult, because as parents we tend to blind ourselves to our children, but it is important that we are objective in their behavior and actions, because only then will we be able to see what they might be doing wrong and correct it, as well as the good to support it.



Firmeza: al momento de tomar una decisión y así mantenerla, sobre todo si se está corrigiendo a nuestros hijos, qué ojo, nada tiene que ver con acompañarlos en la validación de sus sentimientos.

Si el niño hizo Aldo indebido y uno como papá está enseñándole valores y quizás falte a esos valores, como consecuencia una le niega algo que quizás él quería, el niño se puede sentir frustrado y quizás haga alguna pataleta. Como padres acompáñanos en esos sentimientos, pero debemos tener la firmeza para seguir manteniendo la decisión.

Respeto : todo en la crianza debe hacerse con respeto, porque a pesar de que nuestros hijos sean niños, no quiere decir que no se le deba respetar como ser humano. De esta manera, si uno como padre aplica la cualidad del respeto, ellos también con nuestro ejemplo aprenderán a respetar a los demás.

**Firmness: when making a decision and keeping it, especially if we are correcting our children, which has nothing to do with accompanying them in the validation of their feelings.

If the child did something wrong and you as a parent are teaching him values and maybe you are not following those values, as a consequence you are denying him something that maybe he wanted, the child may feel frustrated and maybe he will throw a tantrum. As parents accompany us in those feelings, but we must have the firmness to continue to maintain the decision.

Respect : everything in parenting should be done with respect, because even though our children are children, it does not mean that they should not be respected as human beings. In this way, if one as a parent applies the quality of respect, they will also learn to respect others by our example.



Podría añadir otros más, pero sin duda alguna la crianza es algo en lo que no tenemos Manual y solo nos queda vivir la experiencia.

Gracias @amberkashif por aportar las preguntas para la iniciativa de la Semana.

I could add more, but no doubt parenting is something we don't have a Manual on and we just have to live the experience.

Thank you @amberkashif for providing the questions for the initiative of the Week.



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Parents should show as much respect to kids as they desire to get back from them. Respect is a mirror.

Teaching discipline to kids is difficult. Parents need to have firmness.

However, I am not sure how objectivity can be obtained. We all are subjective with what we percieve the best, aren't we?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

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If objectivity can be achieved when you see everything from the outside, it has worked for me in life.
Many times I have received complaints about my son's behavior and I have listened to both sides, then I have put myself in everyone's shoes and try to see things from the outside, that way I have been able to know what to do and how to act without hurting anyone and being fair.

In the case of my husband, he is more subjective.

I got your point. By attaining objectivity this way, you attempt to remove biases. It is an act of wisdom

Thanks for the elaborating your point.

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