For this week in the ladies of Hive community, my post is based on the second question posed;
Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
I will start by saying I am always against any form of maltreatment. I would never stay in that kind of environment let alone raise my child in it.
I have seen cases where some women find themselves in this kind of dilemma where their in-laws treat them anyhow and they keep bearing it taking all the insult and ill-treatment because of their Children.
I see this as one of the reasons why some children also grow up with this mentality, thinking that it is okay to treat people poorly because they grew up in that kind of toxic environment. If we have a lot of women putting their foot down and ensuring that they don't accept that kind of treatment, maybe just maybe things will be better for the younger generation.
Mothers have an important role to play in the lives of their children, there is just a lot to teach your children but what happens if you don't have the courage yourself, you end up training children who are "weak" and can't make decisions by themselves and would end up allowing others dictate how they live their lives.
So if I find myself in that kind of situation where I am treated poorly by my in-laws and my partner does not stand up for me, I would leave without looking back. Life is too short to always live in fear and not enjoy the beautiful things life has to offer. Furthermore, I would leave because I would never want to project that kind of fear on my child. I want to raise children that would be assertive and do not cower because they are afraid of leaving a place that causes them pain.
Nobody wants to train a child alone but most importantly nobody wants to be treated poorly. Some felt they had no choice because they couldn't take care of the responsibilities that came with raising a child alone. This is why young women need to be empowered because believe it or not, we women are always at the receiving end.
Let's paint this scenario, you both committed the forbidden act. (the guy probably enjoyed it more. Don't ask me how I know 😃😃😃), then she went through the process of pregnancy with all that comes with it, her body changing and all that plus the excruciating labor pain. Now after bringing forth a child, you and your families still decide the best thing I deserve is maltreatment? Nothing will make me waste my time with such families, I would leave immediately for the sake of my mental health and the safety of my child. I would work harder and raise my child alone. Now I am not saying it will be easy but I would choose that over any form of maltreatment over and over again.
In summary, the best thing is to abstain from premarital sex. Use your time wisely. Go to school if your parents can afford to send you, learn a skill, and think of ways to earn something for yourself no matter how little it is so that you would have no reason to settle for less.
This is my entry to the question posed by @jane1289 for the Ladies of Hive Contest
