Huhm, this is deep, what life is about to throw at me is something that rarely happen, this is one tough choice, but its not every day life throws you a tough choice, having to choose between three people/ events that mean the world to me.....
There's my cousin’s wedding, an event I knew would be colorful, lively, fun. Am sure we would have planned it together while discussing various things we would put in place. Also, there's my best friend wedding anniversary, a milestone that represents years of love, commitment, growth and all. Also, here comes a rare and golden opportunity, family reunion, family reunions rarely happen, and for me, family reunion is something we’ve not had in years.
All the aforementioned events now happen to fall on the same day and each at different locations. What a very tough choice this is, even though I know which am going for, still, its not that easy, won't it feel like I disappoint the other's, or like they didn't mean much to me, or that I never cherished them, what about the moments and all I wouldn't be a part of. Still, my choice is family, I chose family, I choose the reunion.
Well, every other person did matter to me, even the memories I won't be a part of is not that easy for me to accept. The wedding would be an unforgettable one, my best friends anniversary celebration also will be a beautiful one, but, anytime, anyday, family, to me, is everything. It’s the foundation that holds me, its my abode, the place I go when the world becomes too loud, it's my safe space, my go to place, where I am not just seen but heard, family goes way beyond blood, it's connection, it's where you are identify with, its what you live for.
I know my best friend would be upset, but since its my best friend then he/she just have to understand me, I will explain things for him/her, am sure I was present for their wedding, this is a wedding anniversary, am sorry I couldn't come, am sorry to disappoint, just that this reunion was different, it's not something that can happen anytime soon again.
Family members, (uncles, auntie's.....) I hadn’t seen in over a decade will be there, all those siblings that got drifted away due to life happenings and all will be present as well. going to be there. But the question is, my cousin is family too, how would we fix a family reunion to the same date as my cousins wedding. My point is if the reunion encompass my extended family, my auntie's, uncles and all, then won't they be present for the reunion as well, what about our cousin's wedding?
But if the reunion is only between the nuclear family, then one of us must definitely go, even if the individual won't be waiting for the exact date, someone would go, to convey our gifts, heartfelt wishes and all. Then the person will return a day to our family reunion, the family reunion is a must, my cousin will definitely understand how important the family reunion is. Some of us, will be flying in from countries just to grace this occasion, some might already be aging...like my parent, and who knows who might not be there next time, we don’t know how many more moments we’ll get with family.
Life doesn't always give us the luxury to make up for a missed time, so the reunion is a better pick, there's the need to feel that bond again, to sit with my siblings together with their partners and children, to sit with out parents, remembering and recalling old times. That won't just be a gathering of feasting and merry making, it will be one reawakening our identity, one that will spark, ignite and deepen our love and connection.
Family is always there for one, not just during celebrating/ festive periods, but when life happens, when you need a go to place, when the party ends, when you are stuck and all....family is that place you return to. I love my cousin and I cherish my best friend so much, but, they will have to be understanding.
Me choosing family doesn't mean the others didn’t matter. I just decided to hold on to the one thing(family) that shaped all my values, all my love, all my friendships, all that I am. Family first, no matter what happens or how far we go, family will always spread their arms to accept and welcome one, family is that one place that reminds us of who we are and who we’ll always be.
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