LOH245 || Remember, what I told you...

Why don't you listen? I warned you about the risk.

We never stop learning... Especially when we make a mistake and we are singled out, judged, and questioned with phrases that hurt and add anxiety, sadness, fear for the worst prison of all, the feeling of "guilt".

I once confused attachment with love. And this is what I learned... after they told me I told you!!! 😝 I thought that feeling of anxiety, waiting and sleeplessness was passion. That pain came with the “true love" package. And I was wrong. I took a chance and clung to someone who couldn't choose me. And instead of letting go, I insisted, and I ended up very emotionally worn out.

Because I thought that fighting for someone was a test of surrender, when in fact it was a way to run away from myself.

At that time I asked the Universe for a sign.And the signal was silence, I didn't find a single signal. I was really so overwhelmed that I couldn't read the silence. Then, that's when I got a little more lost in the noise of my mind... with the famous phrase that "I told you, I warned you and you didn't listen to me!!! Poisoned phrase for me, from a person in the family who at that time said that she was my friend and it turns out that she ended up as a girlfriend with the stupid one I was suffering for.

After going through this devastating experience I understood that sometimes rejection is protection, and that what does not flow, does not heal. Simply because what takes away your peace is not love. It's a recurring wound.

I cried so much for someone that I forgot to ask myself what parts of me still needed my infinite and unlimited hug, and that in the midst of that darkness, I found myself.

I learned that I no longer care what they say, much less what I told you. Because not all links are made to stay, but to teach you something. And that, even if it hurts, is also love. A greater love: my self-love, the one that starts in me.

Now, I have a very clear concept of friendship: it has to be reciprocal. If what I send is not returned in equal measure, in my vision of life, that is not friendship. That also applies to love, and friendship is a form of love. Without reciprocity, then no.

I definitely wouldn't tell, or warn someone else @captive-30. Everyone learns from his own experience, not from the words of others.

For this reason. Now I am kind to myself because when I am so demanding with myself, he treated me too leniently and that does not allow me to move forward.

Although not everything is in our hands, we also have the freedom to choose and ensure that each step is taken with awareness of what you are doing and its consequences.

Janitze.🐝