Hello, ladies of the Hive, Hello juga @ladiesofhive ๐ This is my third post in the LOH community. In the 263rd round of the LADIES OF HIVE contest, hosted by the community and judged by the judges and questioners @trucklife-family, I chose the first theme, which is about the most important lessons we should teach our children.
I once read and heard the following quote:
"It's better to be slapped by the truth than hugged by a lie. When you lie once, you will repeat it many times."
I have been married to my husband for almost 18 years and, thank God, I have been blessed with three children. Both before and after marriage, I have been committed to instilling honesty and courage in our married life. Nothing should be hidden, joy or sorrow; we must face it together, and instill the courage to admit mistakes. And until I had children, the values โโof honesty and courage were the most important lessons I always instilled in my children at home.
- HONESTY
I always convey the importance of honesty to my children, whether I'm with them in the living room or when one of my children misbehaves. Honesty is crucial in education, in the workplace, and in the family and household.
Although, in reality, sometimes the first people to teach children to lie are their parents. Whatever the reason, for example, a mother tells her child she's going to the kitchen when she's actually going to the market, or a husband says he's going to a friend's house when he's actually going to the playground. These kinds of things are commonplace, but that doesn't mean I condone lying. Honesty remains important.
When someone lies, they will lie again and again. In other words, someone who lies becomes trapped in a scenario of lying to protect their own self-respect or honor. Yet, such behavior will only bring misery and undermine trust, especially in the workplace.
On the other hand, honesty is sometimes seen as a barrier by those accustomed to living a life of lies. For example, many honest people who want to tell the truth, honest people who want to defend the common people from the evils of the mafia, often end up facing further threats, even being wiped off the face of the earth.
But, once again, honesty remains very important and must be taught to my children, including explaining the risks of being honest in the midst of people who are accustomed to profiting from lying.
- COURAGE
By courage here, I interpret that we must teach children to be brave, to admit mistakes, to distance themselves from people who are bad influences, and to try even if they fail.
I always tell my children, especially my eldest, "You must have the courage to try good things. Trying and fighting even if you fail is better than not fighting at all. Because failure and success are only for those who take the courage to try and fight."
Furthermore, I always teach my children to have the courage to admit mistakes, even if they are, and then correct them. Even if we are in the right, we must also have the courage to explain ourselves without resentment. Whether our explanation is accepted or not, we must also have the courage to accept everything that is beyond our control. For example, we cannot control people to be kind to us, but we must be able to control ourselves in how others treat us.
Finally, I want to remind all women that honesty is the first page of the book of wisdom, and there is no legacy as rich as honesty and courage.
Thank you very much for your appreciation of my writing.
Photo caption: Personal document from my children's vacation.
