Hello wonderful Ladies, Good day beautiful people welcome to a new week and a new day it is an opportunity to be here again and I would be participating on the contest topic which says: Hearing certain words after making a mistake and feeling judged and attacked in the deepest part of our being, what do you think of this phrase: "I told you so?" Would you also say it to someone else? Can such happen to me or can I say such to another person? Read through with me.
Growing up was actually alot, had friends obviously that we grew up together, we were childhood friends and mainly girls, all of us were brought up in a Christian background more like a Christian family so we all had morals and values attached to our life style, so one of us got pregnant and it came like a shock because the person who got pregnant is a quiet person who always mind her business and was more like a saint among us so we never expected her to get pregnant even if some one would get pregnant among our peer group some one else who was always over sabi and over did every thing.
So she got pregnant and the question was how did it happen, where did it happen, what got in to you to make such a mistake, these and many more questions was what popped up in all of our minds as we heard of it so we decided to go and visit her, reaching there we were all quiet looking at that 18 years old but lacked what to tell, that phrase "I told you so?" Never came out of our mouths because we were friends and saying such would further hurt her instead of comforting her, it was not like she was right doing that but because you do not correct wrong with another wrong we changed the method, at the end of the day we got to know that she was misleaded by a boy who claimed to love her, they had sex with out protection and it lead to such predicament.
The phrase "I told you so" is not sweet in the ears, it is not pleasant in most situations and it is so hurtful to hear when told to a love so I would rather you use some thing more polite like I knew that might happen, words like this would still be referring to that same thing but in a loving manner so that the person can get the message and learn from so in addition you can also put let us learn from it or this experience can be a valuable lesson for all of us, and many more polite words we could make use of instead of those words
That phrase do hurt because you are actually looking more at the person's fault or down falls instead of looking for a way forward, it also present you in a situation where you are happy over the person's situation instead of offering your support and such person might not trust you again after such act.
It is nice doing this with you all, thank you so much for your support and for reading through with me I still remain your favorite girl @graceze
!LADY
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