Happy new week to all the beautiful ladies of Hive!
I wish that this week brings recovery to anyone who has been through emotional pain, and strength to keep moving forward.
When I saw the topic for this contest, I quickly decided to join because I believe almost everyone has passed through emotional pain at some point. I have learned that pain is part of what shapes you as a woman, if you handle it well, it builds you. But if you don't, it can break you.
Today, I'll share a personal story
Some time ago, I was part of a contribution group at my workplace. There were just ten of us involved. Every month, we contributed a certain amount of money, and at the end of the year, in December, we would split it to buy foodstuffs and share the rest among ourselves.
I had been part of the group for over two years, and everything had been going smoothly, until last year.
We all contributed our money as usual. But to cut the long story short, the person who was keeping the money, someone from the finance department, squandered everything. Then he suddenly resigned from work and disappeared.
When we tried calling his number, it was unreachable. We even went to his department at work and were told he had resigned.
Resigned for what reason?
They told us he had taken a huge loan from a bank, couldn't repay it, and the bank was already trying to sell his property. Feeling overwhelmed, he decided to resign and disappear.
It was heartbreaking because we had trusted him. After all, he was the head of the finance department. If there was anyone we thought we could trust with money, it was him!
When we couldn’t keep the matter to ourselves anymore, we reported it to our boss. We explained that we had been running a personal contribution group with the head of finance, and that we needed help to trace "Mr. Kola" (not his real name).
Unfortunately, my boss told us that he had already left town. In fact, the day he resigned, he had also submitted some sensitive financial documents and disappeared.
I was furious. At that time, I had a small child I was nursing.
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I wasn't saving because I had excess money , no! I was saving to prepare for the many expenses that usually come at the end of the year.
To shorten the story, one day, we visited his church and surprisingly, he attended service that day.
We approached him after the service and asked him about our money.
By that time, I was already filled with anger, and ready for whatever would happen next.
Gbam! When we saw him driving into the church premises, we quickly held him by the gate and demanded for our money.
We decided not to involve the police because we knew that the police would ask for their own share of the money, and the matter might still not be properly resolved.
At that point, some of the church members came to his rescue. They spoke to him and persuaded him to settle the matter immediately.
Thankfully, he agreed.
He sold his car that same day and paid everyone their money.
My Candid Advice to Women
For every woman who wants to join a savings or contribution group, please be very careful about who you trust with your money.
Don't just hand over your hard-earned savings to anyone simply because they seem trustworthy.
If possible, open a joint account in the name of the savings group.
That way, no single person can touch the money without the knowledge and approval of everyone involved.
With a system like that, you are safer, and your savings are better protected.
How to recover from emotional pain
Here’s my antidote for emotional pain:
Whenever something causes me pain, I make sure to confront the issue , but not immediately. I first seek counsel from people I trust and listen to their ideas. Over time, I’ve learned not to let anger be the first thing I use to handle a situation.
For instance, if we had acted out of anger with Mr. Kola, it might have led to a police case, which would have cost us even more money.
Instead, we handled it calmly, and the matter was resolved without further damage.
When it comes to emotional pain from a relationship, the key is to confront the issue ,but don’t let it consume you. If letting go is the solution, then do it. Don’t stay in a toxic relationship where you're not receiving anything in return. Your emotional well-being is too valuable to waste.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story.
I wish you a lovely week filled with joy, strength, and blessings!
Bye for now. 🌸
