Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
No one is perfect and everyone can make mistakes, getting pregnant by someone incapable can be so frustrating coupled with a bad in-law, in my culture they do say you are marrying to the family and not your partner, if the in-law does not accept you then you have to flee, run away for your life.
Most people do not understand that it is not because of today but tomorrow matters most, having in-laws who do not like you as a person is the height of evil.
CAN I ENDURE MALTREATMENT
To the contest of the week, can I endure maltreatment? In this case, I will never try such since my man is incapable of defending me, no amount of effort can please his family members since they do not recognize me as their own, and they are bound to turn me into a slave in the process of enduring their maltreatment which I can never bear.
I know most ladies endure this situation because of their children, some are born to endure while some of us are born to walk away from frustration, I will never endure what can tamper with my mental health, this will also lead to low esteem, such a lady will never value her life again because no one values the life and this is the beginning of fear in her life, in my case I wouldn't want to go through that route. Enduring maltreatment can cause trauma, either emotionally or psychologically, it can make a lady depressed and also be confused about life.
In the process of enduring I can endanger my life, life is too short to be frustrated, I can never stand anything that will cause harm to me or even affect my unborn child just because I get pregnant out of wedlock, nothing will make me stand such maltreatment.
CAN I RAISE MY CHILD
At this stage of my life, I can boldly say YES, I can raise my child without the support of the father, I have my handwork and I am still earning Hive, without the help of any family members even mine family, my child can never lack anything and I would make sure I play my role perfectly as a parent.
Playing my role as a parent does not necessarily mean about money, my child will be disciplined, cultured, and well-mannered, I will always allow his father to play his part too because I will never deny my child access to his or her father, the father can visit his child any time he wants.
As a single mother, if your partner wants to be there for his child, allow him to do that, do not deny him access to the child if the reasons for your separation are genuine. I will allow my partner to play his part too to discipline the child as a man but if he's too weak to do that as he was too weak to defend me from his leopard family then I will make boundaries between my child and the father.
This is my entry for this week's edition of ladiesofhive community prompt week #173 anchored by @jane1289.
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