Sometimes the way we expect people to behave or act and the person eventually does the opposite of what we expect of him/her . Well, I've experienced this so many times. Sometimes people i hold with high esteem often do things that makes me have a change of view towards them.
Well, I'm not saying I've not disappointed people before. My sister has a friend who likes sending people on errands, i mean even people that are older than her, every slight opportunity she gets, she'd always send someone on errands. When i say errands, i mean sending some to bring an item for, either from the room or outside the house.
This character of her's was so annoying. She has a child, who is one year old, whenever she's going out, she'd always want to bring her child to my house, for my younger sister to babysit her. Even somedays when my sister is going out, she'd still bring her child. It started pissing me off, i had to call her and talk to her about her bad behaviour of sending people on errands. She went and told me younger sister, saying i am so mean. For me, whatever she was saying doesn't really matter, the most important thing is that, I've made my thoughts know to her.
Sometime last week, she called saying, she wants to bring her daughter over to my house. I told her my younger sister is not around and I'd be working from home that day at the same time, i don't need any distractions. She pleaded for her to bring her child to my place, i stood my ground and i refused. She thought i wasn't serious about what I said over the phone, can you believe she actually brought her daughter to my house after what I've told her...!
She arrived at my house, and knocked on my door, i already saw her through the window. At first i didn't want to open up, but i already told her, i was gonna be working from home. I went to answer the door, and she was like
"Please lemme keep my daughter here, i want to quickly rush to get something"
I refused to open the door for her to come in and drop her daughter, she thought it was a joke, not until i yelled at her. It was then it dawned on her that i was serious about, her not bringing her child to my house for me to babysit. She left my house disappointed, she never knew i would react in such manner.
It's not like i don't like her daughter or i don't like children, i actually love children and i love her daughter too, but i had to say NO, because it was her habit and i need to put a stop to it and also i have work to do, babysitting the baby would be a huge distraction for me. I have suggested to her several times, to always keep her daughter at the day care, whenever she's going out, but she'd always tell me "Day care is expensive".
Well, I'm happy i said NO to her that very day, for the very first time, i was happy to disappoint someone, i know it sounds crazy, but yes! I was proud of myself. Saying no sometimes would help you set boundaries, people would not always have easy access to you, which increases your self respect, sometimes saying NO is the best answer.
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