Parenting is not an easy feat; the earlier you realize this, the better. As someone who is not yet a parent and far from it, I can assure you that I know quite a lot about the complexities of parenting. This knowledge comes from older friends who are parents and generously share their experiences with me. It is also thanks to the prompts I have read from many parents on Hive. Many times, I have envisioned the kind of family I’d like to build- the kind of children I’d like to raise, and how to raise them to become the best version of themselves. Sometimes, while planning my future family in my head, I think, “This plan seems flawless and that nothing can go wrong.” But then I’d remember the experiences of my friends, reminding me that, even with the best efforts, challenges will arise. Even with the best efforts, there will still be potholes. However, we can fill those potholes with enough sand if we put in the effort.
For week 13 of the sci-fi multiverse prompt, we asked to discuss parenting and behavioral traits. Do you think that if your children possess your traits, they will be positively exceptional in your society, or would you rather they don’t inherit any of your traits? If you could pull the strings to give them any trait you like, what would they be? Of course, we all want to raise good, beautiful and almost-perfect children. No one wants to raise children who'd cause menace in society. One thing about raising children is that before you embark on the journey of parenting, you first have to work on yourself. Our children are mirrors of who we are; when we are flawed, they tend to also be flawed. On the other hand, when we are loaded with values and virtues, they tend to follow in our footsteps.
Which of my traits would I want my children to acquire? I definitely would not want my children to acquire all my traits. Of course, I try as much as I can to work on myself, but there are a few aspects that are still flawed. One trait I hope my kids don’t inherit from me is my short temper. Things are way better now, but more than a decade ago, I’d get angry over the slightest little things and throw temper tantrums. I didn't put much thought into what I was doing at the time, but now that I have grown older, I always think about how my short temper affected my parents and those around me. It wasn't until I made intentional efforts that things got better.
On the other hand, one trait I hope my kids inherit from me is kindness. This is a trait I inherited from my mom. My mom is the most kind person I have ever lived with. Growing up, I watched her as she showed kindness to everyone around her. She could use her last penny to help people in need. At some point, it became annoying. My siblings and I didn't understand why my mom helped almost everyone that came to her. With time, I saw through her. I am not close to being as kind as my mom, but I'm sure I make special efforts. It would be a thing of joy to see my kids help other kids, regardless of status, age, or background. I hope they'd learn from me, and even become more kind than I am.
Moving on, another trait I would love my kids to inherit from me is self-confidence and self-trust. I believe these qualities would help them to pursue their passions, overcome challenges, become the best versions of themselves. I attribute my successes to this mindset. I see myself as someone who can overcome challenges as long as I stay focused and put my heart into it. This mentality has helped me in different areas, particularly school. I firmly believe that with the right mindset, problems become manageable. When you approach challenges positively, you've already made significant progress. This trait is one I'd definitely want my children to inherit.
Interestingly, if I could choose traits for my offspring, I'd want them to be kind, close to God, creative, and brilliant. I'd leave the other traits open for their mother to contribute, in case she has additional qualities she'd like to pass on.
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