Growing up, I've come to learn that there is no way you can satisfy humans; even if you give your life as a sacrifice, it will still not be enough. There will still be insults and castigation; some will say you didn't die well; it should have been differently. Why, then, must one go to any length to satisfy fellow humans who are unappreciative? Knowing when to draw the lines is a very important factor to note; likewise, knowing when one is being used, disrespected, and taken advantage of should also be noted. A person like me who always sees reasons to help people when there is no reason and necessary is easy to take advantage of and I've faced that countless times until I knew how to say no.
There are times one would want to help others just because one has the instinct to help and for someone like me who can't bear to see someone in pain, we are always ready to help even when it means going out of our comfort zone to satisfy others but then at the end these people who you are ready to sacrifice a lot for are not even grateful for all you've done or still doing for them. I have been taken undue advantage of when it comes to rendering financial help. I was once in a relationship where I wanted to be as supportive as I could be, using most of my savings to support my partner when the need be.
Like they always say, "It is very difficult to correct someone in love", I guess one can only change their mind when he or she finds evidence of his or herself, but then some still overlook the evidence and decide to play blind just for the sake of love but for me I didn't turn a blind eye, I corrected my mistake with immediate effect. Before that, I had been so vulnerable that I let him have access to all my financial accounts, which gave him the right to take out a loan on one of my banking apps without informing me. When I got to know, I expected him to pay back before the due date, but he didn't, so I had no choice but to refund. Since then, I began to turn down any request for financial assistance from him, and I extended that also to whoever requested. Sometimes, I do fight it in my spirit, but I don't submit to the instinct to give out financial assistance to those who aren't worth it.
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