The beauty of life lies in its complexities. Sometimes, we're able to patch the broken pieces together, but other times, things happen, scattering the fragments in ways that make it hard to know where or how to mend them. Life is full of situations that test our patience, emotions, understanding, and feelings. The world is filled with people who occasionally challenge our resolve. Sometimes, you might wonder if they're specifically placed on earth to test our patience. One of the most powerful yet difficult skills to master is knowing when to walk away. Knowing when to when to run and steer clear of trouble can be difficult. However, learning this skill brings you closer to achieving inner peace. For today’s INLEO prompt, we are asked to discuss the best time to avoid a situation.
I respect and look up to my mom for many reasons. One of the many things I admire about her is that she possesses something I and many people out there don’t- she possesses the art of knowing when to walk away. Growing up, I grew up with both parents. My parents tried as much as they could to avoid misunderstandings, particularly in the presence of their kids. But sometimes, their emotions get the best of them. I noticed that whenever their conversations got heated, my mom would always walk away. Although I was young, her actions pissed me off. I’d tell her that she was too gentle. I’d say, “Mummy sometimes you need to face these things head on. Show him that you are not all soft. Show him that you also have feelings and can fight for your rights.” But of course, my mom would always laugh and call me a child.
I used to enjoy standing my ground and defending my rights, especially when I was sure that I was not in the wrong. Over the past few months, I have realized that some people and situations are not worth your headache, really. Some situations don’t deserve a bead of your sweat, so it is just best to walk away. If anything, I understand how difficult it is to walk away. I was once there. I'm probably still there. I guess the best way to put it is: I understand that it is best to walk away in some situations, but I’m yet to master that art. So, when is the best time to avoid a situation?
If a situation constantly drains your energy or causes you difficulties, then it is best to walk away. We shouldn’t allow anyone to snatch our happiness and peace of mind away. For example, you find yourself in a toxic relationship or friendship where your partner or friend constantly makes you feel unwanted. Why should you continue to be with someone who constantly makes you feel unwanted? A few years ago, I found myself in a toxic friendship. One thing about toxic people is that you don’t see them coming until you are deeply rooted in their lives and they have you strapped around their hands. It was not easy for me to leave, but once I realized that I needed to prioritize my peace of mind, I did the needful.
Another scenario where avoidance might be the best option is when a situation starts to escalate. For instance, during a conversation with a friend or anyone, if the person begins raising their voice and becoming aggressive, it wouldn't be wise to match their level of aggression. In such a situation, it's best to walk away. It would be demeaning to your reputation to bring yourself down to their level. Let them think they've won, but deep down, you know who truly came out on top.
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