Someone said that the only reason he never gets so hurt when someone close hurts him badly is because he has learned to understand that "Humans will always be humans, and he has learned to trust that humans will always be humans" That means that every human has their different traits, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful and the rest of the traits we can think of, and at every point in time they would always portray or exercise their traits.
So he expects that as humans, those close to humans or humans in general could portray or exercise whichever traits they feel like portraying depending on the occasion, experience, and the person's thinking at the given time and it would not bother him because the person is human and expected to act rationally or irrationally as human at the given time.
"If I can not fight you, I will send someone to do the job for me" This was what I told someone when we got talking, as much as I love to be in my space, I love to be in my lane and avoid unnecessary attention or conflict, I tell people I have too much going on with me to want to invest in such balderdash because my head is clouded with so much and the only thing I seek for myself is peace, calmness and serenity but I will not hesitate if anyone threatens my peace, and I would not flee or hesitate to dish it out to anyone who tries to put me in that spot. I would naturally not be in someone else nose, well try to understand and maintain the bigger person around, but don't take it for granted, and don't try to play smart because you do not know what is hidden inside all of that.
It's never always my thing to act stern or severe because I understand that humans act and respond according to their environment, background, and upbringing, and too many times, we might never get to like or accept each other's manner or perspectives of life, notwithstanding, it is okay to air each other's opinion or perspective about life or how we see different things, situation or actions with respect, while we also learn to see life from others perspective because of course it doesn't mean that most of our perspective about life is accurate or right even though they are from our lenses, I guess it is the reason why it was said that "No man is an island".
Humans are insatiable, humans are selfish, humans are irrational and the rest, so we would never always accept and see our wrongs I get it because most times we want to be right, we want to be the hero, we want to be the spotlight, and of course, that is why we are humans but what I would not accept is trying to impose your ideology on me and making me feel less of myself. I could go to hell and be back if I find out that you are trying to berate me or anyone around me because you do not know or understand what people are fighting every day to come out surviving.
Many have had a rough or bad experience while growing up, and many had a bad family trauma experience that has shaken them and kept them in a place they would naturally not want to be, but they are showing up and trying to fight their fears and demons and it would be wrong for an external body who does not know what is happening to come and try to make them go back to their former state.
So, yes for someone who has experienced life from a different and difficult phase, due to some challenges, I understand most of these experiences because I have been in their shoes at one point in time of my life, and I think age fought to survive and stand strong, I have fought to come out of the dark, So, I would not be leverage when I see someone try to push me or anyone around me into that innermost part, truth is, I would not only be stern and severe, I would go dirty and below the belt just to make you think better.
When my life, and sanity are involved or at stake, (emotionally and psychologically), I won't spare anyone because it is my peace of mind, it is my life, it is my strength to keep fighting my demons you are toying it, and many of us are dark and do not want to return to where they came from because it is not a place they want to talk about or make someone else experience it.
I would go stern and severe when I see someone molesting or bullying anyone around me, it's a natural thing I find myself doing and my instinct to protect the other person immediately sets in, and for someone who has tested what it feels like to be bullied, I am not sure I would want anyone to experience that face, so you would not naturally see me be friends with people who are bully or who try to ride on others just to make themselves feel good, I would make sure to help crush their bones and wings, and make them feel less important and less relevant as much as they wanted the other person to feel.
I am loud about it, and too many times, I have been the voice, I have stood up to such people because nobody knows what the other person is going through, so trying to hurt people while you make yourself feel good, is something I would not love to see happen, I could even get involved even if I do not know who is involved. Life is already too hard, and I don't see any reason why someone somewhere is trying to make it more challenging than it already is, I say it "We never know the battles each of us is fighting, don't make the other person a devil because of your attitude towards them, don't make the other person go back to his or her dark place because we've chosen to be inhumane towards the others feeling"
It takes a strong and resilient person, to keep showing up, with the way the world is going, so don't be the reason why the other person loses her rational reasoning and becomes irrational, you never know to what extent the other person can go or would go to teach you respect, morals and values for humans or humanity and don't be surprised when you see me acting stern and severe at this point but I wouldn't mind putting you in your place.
Many avoid and run away from people because they do not want to awaken that part of them that would go to any extent to prove a point, many avoid situations or people who constantly want to push them to the other side because of their attitude and behaviour, and I am one of those who have worked hard to train their brain and heart to be good, and welcoming to people around me but if you see me behave stern and severe, it means you've crossed the line and funny thing is, I am at the point of fighting myself to not treat you the way you treated me and made me feel.
I learned from someone respectable to always make excuses for people, and I have embedded the traits to the extent I question myself and my reasoning because standing before me is clear evidence that this person is not just acting too wise but trying to play on my intelligence but I still find myself making excuses for their actions, but I would be stern and severe once the person hurt me so bad that I start questioning my actions or regretting why I never acted upon my instinct when the signs where there instead of making excuses or paying deaf ears.
It's in human nature to want to hurt the other person, but I say this, for clarity's sake, do not hurt me intentionally if I did not hurt you, do not play on my intelligence, do not try to bully or try to molest me or want to take me for granted, because you think I am too calm, and reserved, avoid fight, stay on my lane and would most likely not do anything, because I am sure to be giving you back in folds and I would not be sparing you. Don't come around me being toxic and all of that, because I would be going all out if my peace of mind is threatened.
It's okay to be stern and severe when one peace of mind and mental state is being threatened, it's okay to be stern and severe when anyone tries to play with your intelligence and make me look like a fool, it's okay to be stern and severe when one is imposing their cultural crap that has nothing to add to your life on you, it's okay to be stern and severe when you've been pushed too many times to the wall and it is beginning to feel like a norm for the other person.
It is okay to be stern and severe when your act of kindness is being reciprocated with bad, which makes you regret your actions and being kind to the other person, it's okay to be stern and severe when you feel that your life or safety is threatened.
This is my entry to the Day 13 #Januaryinleo prompt, and here is the link to participate)
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