See it is honestly strange how the people we think we know so well can suddenly start to feel like total strangers, like, you could be so close to someone , talk almost every day, share jokes, tell each other things, and still, one day, they will do something that leaves you wondering if you ever even knew them at all.
I have come to realize that sometimes, no matter how close you are to a person, you can never really know what is going on in their head, Everyone has a side of them that they do not show, maybe not even intentionally, but it is there, hidden behind those smiles, laughter, and normal conversations.
I have this friend I have known for over a year now, we used to talk a lot, share plans, and discuss random things, I actually thought I knew him pretty well until recently when something happened that made me rethink everything.
There was something he had planned to do, something we had talked about over and over again, It was not just a one day thing, it was something he had been preparing for, then all of a sudden, he changed his mind at dying minute and decided not to go through with it anymore I like like wtf.... at first, I thought maybe something happened, so I asked, but he wasn't reaady give a straight answer, he just said he didn’t want to do it anymore.
After that, he went quiet, like, completely quiet, no texts, no calls, nothing, It honestly felt weird because this was someone I talked to almost every day , I just kept thinking, Ahn Ahn! what happened? Did I say something wrong? Did something change? but there was just silence.
You know that was when it hit me that I didn’t actually know him as much as I thought that i did, see truth is you can spend so many months or even years around someone and you still not know what they are thinking or how they really feel about things, people hide a lot behind the word I’m fine.
See this made me realize how fragile the human connection can be, one moment you feel close like teeth and chewing gum, and the next moment it feels like you are standing on opposite sides of a wall, and the worse thing is that, you will never understand why the distance suddenly appeared.
I guess that is just life for you, people just change, situations change, and sometimes, we just have to accept that it is not everyone that will always let us into their world, some of these people carry their battles in silence, and some just quietly drift away when they feel misunderstood or when they get tired.
But the funny thing is, even though it hurts when people pull away, it also teaches you something, that you can never fully know someone no matter how close they are to you, Everyone has layers, and sometimes, you only get to see the ones they are comfortable showing.
So now, I just take people as they come, I don’t try too hard to understand what is going on in their mind anymore, because really, the people closest to us can sometimes be the biggest strangers, and we may never truly know why.
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