Many times I have heard people say marriage don't work especially singles or there are no perfect marriages and everyone is just managing their own. I don't agree with this because I believe there are numerous perfect marriage out there.
Maybe because of some unhealed people that have come out to share their own failed relationships or divorce experiences, often painting a bleak picture of marriage. They're everywhere on social media, advising people that marriages are imperfect and that good marriages don't exist , they have turn themselves to marriage experts or counselors thereby convincing our singles that marriage doesn't work.
I often look at the hands of many women in our church, and I'm surprised by the rings still shining on their fingers. These women, some of whom are sixty or even fifty-plus years old, have been married for decades. I find myself thinking, 'Wow, she's still wearing her ring,' and I imagine how beautiful their marriages must have been, seeing a retired woman still wearing their ring.
I'm not saying that a ring is the ultimate measure of a successful marriage, but a woman who's been married for thirty-plus years and still wears her ring has clearly shown that she is still in marriage and she still enjoy marriage.
Recently, I jokingly asked my parents how many years they've been married – they said over thirty years, just like many of our parents. Yet, it's surprising to hear some singles say that marriage is too hard or not for them, simply because they've seen celebrity marriages fail or seen divorce all around them and on social medias.
When did celebrity marriages become the benchmark for our own? What about our parents, who've been married for years? Sure, some of them may not be entirely satisfied with their marriages, but they've learned to navigate the ups and downs. We can learn from their experiences, picking up good lessons and advice from those who've made it work.
Our parents are our first mentors, our first role models. So, why do we often focus on the negative stories online or on social media? Good marriages are possible, and perfect marriages do exist – I'll have one myself.
The issue is that only those with struggling marriages tend to seek advice, while those with healthy marriages don't need it. That's why we mostly see the negative side of marriage online. Singles, let's shift our focus to the positive stories, listen to those who've made it work, and learn from their experiences. Marriage can work, and good marriages are out there – yours can be one too.
Just because you've seen imperfect marriages doesn't mean perfect ones don't exist. In fact, there are countless couples out there who've found their perfect match and are living happily ever after.
We have see marriage of over 40 years and above living happily ever ,we should learn to focus on the positive side of marriage other than negative side. Because someone marriage doesn't work don't mean that yours won't work or yours won't the perfect.
And I also I disagree with the saying that all men cheat , not all men cheat only the undisciplined men cheat. Some men as overcome the temptation of cheating. No matter how strong it's,they can't fall into it.
This post is in response to the prompt hosted by Hive Reach out Community which is titled Popular Statement you don't agree with, I will be inviting
@oluwa-tosin @ene22 @abdul-qudus to participate too.
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