Daily prompt: I don't want criticism

sommylove in Freewriters • 14 days ago

This is my entry to the FreeWriter House daily prompt.

Criticism is one of those things people often throw around without really thinking. It’s like they don’t pause to consider the weight of what they’re saying or how it might affect the person on the receiving end. They just dive in and start pointing things out—picking up from where they left off last time—without a second thought.

The truth is, people don’t like it. I don’t like it. In fact, I try to stay away from it as much as I can. There’s something called constructive criticism, which is meant to correct gently and lovingly, coming from a good place. When it’s done right, it’s not just about pointing out flaws—it’s about helping someone grow, with care and respect.

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But even with that, I don't want criticism at all* I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. Some of us just don’t thrive under it. Instead of helping, it can weigh us down and make us feel worse. That’s why I believe criticism—especially the harsh, thoughtless kind—should be avoided altogether.

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clairemobey 13 days ago

I struggle with this so much, especially as an artist. It's scary enough and I make myself extremely vulnerable by putting myself out there.

Yes, there is absolutely such a thing as constructive criticism, but there are very few people who are skilled at this. Most of the people who throw criticism at you don't give a second thought to your feelings at all and it's sometimes a power trip for them. Also, the majority if these people are underqualified to even criticize you in the first place.

I don't know if you ever watched Disney's "Bambi," but I always remember the words of little Thumper, the bunny, who said:" If you don't have anything nice to say, don;t say anything at all!"

Another of my favourite quotes (although I can't remember where it comes from) is: " Choose your words carefully. Think about what you are saying and if you are actually being helpful or hurtful. Are your words actually going to help the person they're directed at or just make them feel ashamed."

Then there's: "When offering critisism, if the person it's directed at can't fix it in 5 minutes, just keep quiet. They are probably more than self conscious about it and don;t need your input."

Lastly, my favourite author, Brené Brown offers these words of wisdom in her book "Daring Greatly", originally quoted by Theodore Roosevelt. The speech is famously referred to "The Man in the Arena.":
“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”

—Theodore Roosevelt
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910

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sommylove 13 days ago

We really in one way or the other might suffer it but people should always learn not to be like that

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clairemobey 12 days ago

!Indeed
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sommylove 11 days ago

Thanks

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clairemobey 11 days ago

It's such a pleasure. <3
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sommylove 11 days ago

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clairemobey 12 days ago

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sommylove 12 days ago

God bless you Abundantly
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clairemobey 12 days ago

It's only a pleasure. This post especially resonated with me. It reminds me a lot of my relationship with my mother. She "means well" but doesn't consider consequences of her sometimes hurtful comments. Sometimes she doesn't even understand what she has said to upset me. I have often been called oversensitive, but I don't think that's the case. It's hard enough to share art with the world. The last place we need critisism from is where our "safe place" is supposed to be.

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sommylove 12 days ago

So sorry for that ma we need in ways to enlighten people to turn from that

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clairemobey 12 days ago

I think it's a reflection of how their own inner critic works. Sometimes people who are harsh with themselves use the same tactics with loved ones. They don't even know they're doing anything wrong. It's like they're programmed that way. My gran was like that and so is my aunt (my mother's sister) so it's like a generational trauma passed down from one generation to the next. I can't change my mom but I can check myself and make sure I don't make my children feel this way. We are a generation of cycle-breakers <3

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sommylove 11 days ago

Indeed we are breakers by God's Grace trying very harder in other to break and stops things

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clairemobey 11 days ago

Oh amen my friend. Big hugs!
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sommylove 11 days ago

Thanks

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