Argument sometimes offers an avenue to learn different viewpoints from people, although depending on the subject. The only concern is that most of the time, arguments lead to conflicts depending on the intentions too.
I was on a transit when political arguments were raised. Many passengers got interested in the topic and kept arguing over it. While they were arguing and proving their points, taking sides on the political parties they support, I was calm and downloading knowledge for myself. Things I never knew before about a particular ruling party were unfolded, diverse information about the happenings in our country was being discussed as well, and while some persons were constructive with their arguments, some persons carried the matter on their heads and nearly hit each other over top politicians that are not even aware of the scene they were creating behind the bar, unnecessarily.
Sometimes, we should see argument beyond proving a point but rather share knowledge and ideas with each other, making impacts and learning in the process. There are also some instances that no matter how you prove your point in an argument, you will still lose considering the kind of humans you are arguing with. Some people like taking things to the extreme; that's just their nature. They will never accept defeat; they will argue until they see themselves winning and could turn arguments into conflicts so easily. This is why it becomes important to know when to back off; that's just the way to go to avoid regrets.
Some issues are better left undiscussed! This is one statement a friend of mine usually makes each time there's an issue to sort out. I understand that he's always trying to avoid arguments using such statements, but is it really the best action to take ALWAYS when an issue arises? By dodging sorting out your differences with one another as a way of settling disputes instead of expressing yourself? Sometimes, he is silently dying in grudges over issues he refuses to discuss. His lifestyle when it comes to arguments is overly tiresome, yet I understand what he is running away from, arguments!...
I understand that sometimes there's a need to stop lingering issues through arguments but not to totally avoid saying a word when issues that involve you arise. People can simply conclude that you are guilty of the accusations if you constantly avoid making an effort to settle your differences, but in whatever argument I see myself in, I have learned to choose my choice of words and strive to stay calm amidst heated arguments so I can control possible regrets later on.
As long as humans exist in this world, building social connections and doing things together, they are bound to have conflicts, arguments, misunderstandings, etc., once in a while. One thing might lead to another, and unplanned arguments set in! Thus this question: How do you settle arguments? Either with a stranger, loved ones , family members, or even colleagues from your place of work.
Personally, I don't like involving myself in arguments, especially unhealthy ones. However, if I must argue over a thing, I should be able to choose my words wisely, maintain calmness, and know when to back off to avoid escalating issues.
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