Trust And Boundaries.

in Ladies of Hive19 days ago

Talking about my succession plan, with the fact that none of my family members are interested in managing my account or continuing from where I stop. Well, I haven't really given this much thought or even think about it before now, but even without thinking twice, I have somebody, a very important person I can willingly give it to, and that's @vickoly. He's been my go-to person from day one and he's been the one putting me through, even when I first started he was the one, along the line I stopped, still he was the one who asked me to pick up for where I stopped before, even though I was scared and I doubted myself, but here I am today, all thanks to God for him.

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The kind of support I've received from him and still receiving is one that's rare, he won't stop encouraging me. So, trusting him with such hive power is a good decision. He is consistent, disciplined and a builder, so I trust his plans and whatever he decides to use it for because I'm sure it will definitely be for good. I'm sure he would use it wisely and in the best way possible, one thing I am certain of though is that he will support other writers with it the same way he supported me.

So, if I cannot continue to journey anymore, I have someone who's trustworthy enough. And that person is @vickoly.

Now, talking of the other topic about my rules for supporting financially. I have always been the type to help and come through for people, br it family, friends or even strangers. I know what it means to need help and to have someone come through for you, at the same time I know that giving without limit or wisdom will at the end of the day leave one broke and empty.

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So, the first simple rule is follow is, "give what you can afford to lose." Yes, I give just as much as I can afford to lose, if I'm helping I help to the extent to which it works affect me in the long run, even though I sometimes go beyond, but it's only in rare occasions. Even if you ask me to borrow you, I only borrow as much as I can afford to lose, just in case you cannot pay up or something came up.

Even the Bible says, love your neighbor as yourself, not more than yourself and not at your win detriment. So, coming through for someone should not destroy or wreck me. And while doing all of that too, I try to consider the reason behind requests, some are health related, some emergencies and various things, so I try to come through the best way I can. And when I'm not financially buoyant enough, I will respectfully tell you I'm sorry I can't be of help.

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Another rule I've set for myself is to not keep giving to the same person over and over again, and this is not because I want to keep helping different people so that they can see me as a giver, or seeking for validation, no. I'm doing that because when I give, I'm not expecting you to remain dependent on me and keep on asking every single time you're in need. So, there are times I tell them of opportunities, offer good ideas/valuable advise, encouragement and such also because not every problem is solved with money.

In conclusion, we all are going through things, even me I have a lot of broke and empty days. So, I've learnt to not feel guilty for saying no. The Bible says wisdom is profitable to direct. So, setting boundaries and saying no once in a while has gone a long way in helping me.

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It's always good to have a plan B; it's good to know who to trust when your soul is no longer on Earth.

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Definitely Mama.
Thanks a lot for stopping by ma'am.

You are right, "wisdom is profitable to direct" to know who's capable of handling your affairs in your absence is wisdom because some people left this earth void of such plans and all their labour are wasted just in few years or so.

To set boundaries in life helps anyone to achieve more and to avoid wastages.

You're right about that ma'am.
Thanks a lot for your kind and thoughtful words.

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Thanks a lot.

I see that he has many talents as well besides being a solid cornerstone of the Nigerian community. 👍

Giving to the same person three times is my limit, at this point the situation becomes a dependency and perhaps points to an underlying issue. It's often a lack of financial planning, budgeting and some discipline. In one case, an addiction.

I've set aside an annual amount and I am anticipating needs of my local friends who can barely afford their rents. "Be a cheerful giver.." as the Bible says, Otherwise, it'd be prudent to be wary of deception @marsdave After all, we are put here to "Love our neighbors."

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Yea, he is, he's even my mentor on this space as well and I trust that he's trustworthy enough.

And about having a limit too, that's a good one. Because like you said once it's over that, it starts becoming dependency.

Yea, the Bible did said that... Love your neighbor as yourself.

Thanks a lot for your kind and thoughtful words.
Very well appreciated 😊.

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