Hello ladies, at some point in life we all have had difficulties and problems, which we all react to it differently. I have had my share of problems which I've handled differently. I handle some well others I did poorly. I can't share with you how I have handled all my problems since childhood because I would be writing a book not a post 😂. So now I want to share with you one of my l personal challenges I've ever faced and how I'm handling it. Oh yes I'm still tackling that challenge. It's is a personal journey I'm on.
I was a girl who would take anybody's nonsense and shit talk like I was a piece of wood with no feelings. I would be hurt but I didn't have the energy to retaliate or speak my mind. I would just push the pains away and ignore whatever happened. After all life moves on. Little did I know I was doing more harm than good to myself because these feelings and thoughts never really went away but only piled up.
You could wrong me knowingly or unknowingly I'll just let it slide like nothing happened.But that's the thing others saw me as weak and a carefree person who doesn't get moved. I thought I was the perfect version of myself, a chill no drama no stress girl but I was only being unfair to my own self.I was always scared what people would think about me if I wronged them whether im the victim or not. I didn't have any regards for my own feelings. This made me Bottle up my thoughts and feelings.
Overtime my own decisions and toxicity to myself was becoming soffucating.it was eating me up from the inside. I needed to be a different person someone who has regard for her own thoughts, feelings and opinions. A confident person and a self loving girl. Tackling this problem was a fight with my own self. I had to push myself from this toxic habit that I became comfortable with.
My best friend was therefore me a lot, he made me realise I can't be on everybody's good side I sometimes needed to be the bad person, I had to be stubborn so people don't take advantage of me or see me as a weak person. We had deep conversations about my problem which made me felt better because with him I identified things I needed to work on. These deep convos had helped me a lot because it made it easier to communicate easier when having deep convos.
I needed to have confidence in my own self and believe my self, I started working on my confidence. But how does one work on her confidence. This was a challenge because because ot was a fight with my own self I had to kick my self from my comfort zone and become more outspoken. Communication was apart of my problem I needed to be able to have difficult conversations with people so I could express my feelings better especially in a misunderstanding. I began communicating better especially via text which made it more easier for me to express myself. Even till now I do more of texting on phone than on calls. I decided to keep my circle small. Because I wanted less drama which reduces my chances of having problems and misunderstanding.
The most important thing that has helped me a lot in handling my problem was having someone special to be by my side 🥰
I'm still working on myself but Today I'm a better person and I handle situations much better. I speak for myself freely I care less what other think of me after all the world doesn't revolve around anyone.
Do you relate to my experience? Kindly share with me in the comments.
Thanks for reading 😊.
