New - Mindset

in The Pub8 days ago

No, no, no, don't be afraid, I'm not going to drop a whole post about how to get a new mindset, this post is going to be about something else, but still connected to mindset.

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The topic is not new, I've been noticing this thing appear more and more lately and last night I saw a post from @calendulacraft, who's a big inspiration to me (and I owe her a post about an upcoming project of mine, inspired by her), and decided to finally write about it. It may be an eye opener, if you want to change your life and take things seriously, but that's not my goal here. I just want to write about it.

There's a whole obsession, or hysteria going around among people who live a superficial life and you're going to see why I say that.

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We started a new year roughly a month ago and this is the time when people (pretend)want to change their lives. As I mentioned in my previous posts, this is what New Year resolutions are for, to show off with their intentions, which remain intentions mostly as only a selected few are still sticking to their plans. The rest is doing it for social validation and to look good in others' eyes. Not that anyone cares, but they don't know that.

New year, new month, new week, Monday, all these mean a new beginning for some. Yes, for some.

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When I was in school, every new school year meant new notebooks, for every subject we studied. I remember I promised myself every single year, that those notebooks will be written with the most beautiful handwriting. This promise was kept for a week or two, then my writing turned into something that looked like written by a pig with its left leg. This is a Hungarian expression by the way, addressed to those who have a very ugly handwriting.

During my university years, this was justified as professors, lecturers were speaking freely and were definitely not waiting for you to write everything down at your own speed, but schools were different. It all depended on me and after a couple of weeks, I was back to my old habits, writing like a pig. Truth to be told, my handwriting is not so bad compared to others, but not nice by my own standards.

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@calendulacraft wrote something last night that made me think of how people quit their project and start a new one, thinking that will be better.

Anyone who frequents the crafty corners of the internet will have noticed a trend: everyone is getting new journals and planners to celebrate our entrance into 2026. And, I totally get it. There is a special boost of energy to starting anew with the new year. And, somehow, a brand new journal symbolizes a fresh start. I am not opposed to buying new things, but, why should I abandon my old notebooks when I have a couple of perfectly good ones with plenty of pages left to fill? Today I want to de-influence my fellow crafters. We don't need to buy anything new, at least not until the pages of the last journal are filled up.

Maybe those crafters are not starting a new scrapbook, because the old one is a failure, but why not finish the one you have and then start a new one? What is stopping you?

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This happens on every field and on every level I think. You buy a new pair of shoes, enjoy them when they are new, wear them, then have no respect to them after a few months and just buy new ones. Clothes too.

This is mainly damaging to your wallet or bank account and the environment as fast fashion can create a lot of damage to nature, but can have serious consequences if you do this with projects, jobs. I know people who have been changing jobs every two or three years, to avoid new challenges regarding professional growth and upping their performance.

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It definitely takes some time to get mature enough to know, running from unfinished business, or starting over repeatedly is not going to take you far as it is like walking the same path and expecting different outcome. Some can live like this their whole life, denying reality and the damaging effect a mentality like this has, but worth it?

Every project is a journey and unfortunately so many are looking and focusing only on the final goal, neglecting to see what the journey really means. You don't need life coaches, motivational bullshit courses and videos, that is sold for a lot of money and you get nothing out of them, as it's not tailored to your needs. You just have to be consistent, pay attention to what you're going through and draft your own program, draw your own conclusions. It's going to pay off nicely, trust me.

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Did you guys have Trapper Keepers over there? I always loved getting a new Trapper Keeper each year for school. I remember one year I had one with kittens all over it. I'm more of a dog person these days. :)

I remember them. Loved those things. I got my brother's hand me down and cousins too. Mine were just one color.

Haha, they were so cool with all the pockets and flaps.

When i was a school kid, we were happy to find some half decent notebooks and consumables for school, after roaming around the city for a day or two. I don't even know what Trapper Keepers is, so I had to look it up. Those were tough years.

I can only imagine!

Everything you say is correct—the problem is, no one will listen. It's only with age that your brains come into their own. I'm constantly trying to teach young people how to do the right thing, but no one cares. Until a person learns from their own mistakes, they'll never follow the advice of their elders. But there's a special category of people who, even at 70, continue to make stupid mistakes and actions—life hasn't taught them anything.

Everything you say is correct—the problem is, no one will listen.

You're right. Not that I want to change anyone as these people need to experience what they do is not good.

But there's a special category of people who, even at 70, continue to make stupid mistakes and actions—life hasn't taught them anything.

I know what you're talking about, and unfortunately there are so many. I see them closed in their small, narrow mind, still thinking they know all and they know best, yet doing one stupid thing after the other. You're never going to change them. Those who think they are the smartest, are the worse.

Oh well, we move on and limit our interaction with them. I see no point in wasting time with these people.

I love the ideas you shared in this post. Especially this; "It definitely takes some time to get mature enough to know, running from unfinished business, or starting over repeatedly is not going to take you far as it is like walking the same path and expecting different outcome"

So wise!! Cheers to new beginings AND finishing what we started

Cheers to new beginings AND finishing what we started

Cheers to that as we know how to do it and most of all, why to do it :)

My handwriting sucks too, pretty bad, it's not like I don't want to write better I just can't... Anyway that's why I'm against new 'year/month/week' intentions, if you want to change something you do it right now... Then you say consistency, I say strong will, you need a strong will to keep up with the intentions or the challenges of life

Mine doesn't, but if i have to choose between writing everything down without losing info and writing nicely, I choose the first option any given day. I admire those who learn and do calligraphy, have been planning to do it myself, but there are more important things to learn so ...

if you want to change something you do it right now...

Golden rule of life.

Then you say consistency, I say strong will, you need a strong will to keep up with the intentions or the challenges of life.

Yes, that too.

Oh yeah, I agree, personally I have more important things to take care of...

How right you are in that last paragraph, and to think that society is going down the road automatically without such constancy and effort leads nowhere but round in circles. My graphology teacher used to tell me that the important thing was to start a big project, if at all, just before the turn of the decade, for example a few days before my 40th birthday I moved to another country. I don't know if it affects or not but it has been a big change, I always say it and very good, but it has depended more on my perseverance and work than on the date.

Moving to another country depends on a lot of things, regarding when you do it. But there are so many little things that depend only on us and we still don't do anything about it. Or some of us anyway.

It is true that many do nothing and want the optimum results to fall from the sky.

The most damaging is when they expect God to do everything, while they sit around and do nothing. This is when you see the damaging effect of believing blindly, or using religion to justify your laziness.

You couldn't have said it better! I totally agree. You have to work for what you want!

You know, there's a saying in Hungarian. "Help yourself and God is going to help you as well." They don't know this saying, but I'd teach it to them.

The universe or God will act in consequence of what we do. Action and reaction or consequence... the truth is yes, it has to be taught.

Hello @erikah , hopefully you are doing well, I was muted in photography lovers, I told you before but you say you are using steem but I have left steem 6 months ago, my only focus is on hive Please unmute me, that I can continue with my passion thank you.

Hello @mrdani12.

you say you are using steem

False information. I've never said that as I am not using Steemit.

I have left steem 6 months ago

False information again, as your last post on Steemit was 4 months ago.

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I had a look at your photos and those are low quality, that we definitely don't want to see in Photography Lovers.

Please unmute me, that I can continue with my passion thank you.

Request denied. You can continue with your passion on your own blog or in a different community, where quality doesn't matter.

Sorry my dear friend, I was thinking its you, but I remind later that it was the other mod you can ask from him, he give me the reason of steemit, I didn't see my post on steemit I was thinking it was 6 month I left it 4 month ago and the last one my photo quality, Now i have a better phone and I can take some good shot , Please I request you give me a chance, I was mute at begining of my hive career due to steemit now I reach 74 reputation and did not get a chance to my passion. I Will be very thankful for this kind of act. Sorry for mis information it my mistake.

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Your request is denied. Reputation gives you no special treatment. There are plenty of communities on Hive and you can also post on your blog. The decision is final.

Okay thank you