You know that life is just like a dance of human interaction. So let's be honest to ourselves.
Sometimes people might get into your head.
They might step on your toes. They might get you angered and annoyed. And this is part of life. But there are moments when just feeling just boils over. And you can't just hold it anymore.
I had one of these moments a couple of years ago. And this taught me a lot of lessons about anger, grace, and finding peace. There was a hectic day at work. I was already stretching, juggling. Then lines and meetings were upon me.
A colleague I knew had a habit of making snarky comments. But I usually brought them up. But that day, something happened. She made a jab about my work in front of the whole team. Implied that I wasn't pulling any weight.
Something in me just snapped. The frustration I brought up for weeks came rushing out immediately. And before you know, I was raising my voice. Calling her out for being unfair and very dismissive. At some point, the room went silent. Everyone stared at the face of my friend at the office. I stomped out.
Instantly regretting my bad boss. I was so angry to just stomp back. That moment, I couldn't focus for the rest of the day. My anger felt justified. But I knew I had handled it poorly. I didn't want to be the person who always explodes in front of others. I wasn't that kind of person. So I took a deep breath and decided to face the mess I'd made.
Later that evening, I sent her a message asking if we could talk privately to a relief. And to my greater surprise, she agreed. So the next day, we met over coffee. We had a coffee. I started apologizing for my bad boss. Admitting I would let my emotions get the deeper, better of me. And to my surprise, Sarah opened up. She hadn't realized her comments came across.
I was dealing with her own stress. Which made her snapping. We didn't become best friends. But we cleared the air. We agreed to communicate better. We weren't perfect. Itnwasn't perfect. But these experiences have taught me that anger isn't the enemy. It is a signal that something needs attention.
But how do we handle all this? Bossing out for the moment might feel good. But it is a step we take afterwards. Owning our mistakes and wrongs. Trying to listen and rebuild. All these things are what turn a bad boy military a chance to grow. It is not just about bringing taking up or bringing up annoyance and anger but we can choose to respond with courage and kindness even after we lose our cool.
Next time someone gets under your skin take a deep breath face it head on and let healing begin right now.
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